To expect my family to aknowledge my divorce.

[Cutecat78]

Split up with ex H 10 years ago.

Divorced 6 years ago been with OH for 6 yrs engaged for 4.

Upon my divorce I reverted back to my maiden name (kept my married name at work as easier) so my bank account, email everything is now Miss Cutecat.

My family are all aware of this and while it has taken them some time to accept this they can see I have moved on and am happy.

Mother and sister insist on addressing things to Ms Maiden Name or Mrs Married name and every time they are going to email me ask "which email" - Erm the one I have been using for six fucking years.

To top this off my sister repayed me some money into a bank account (Mrs bank acc) I no longer used as in debt management (is over no but I lost the money) and my mum has just asked me "which bank account" to put some money into and has every time for the last 6 years (closed Married Name one was one of two options).

Other than take a full page ad out in the papers AIBU to think it's not that hard to
get used to me not using the one other name I have had in my 40 years of life?!

You made a mistake when you got divorced. You should have divorced your family as well as your ex. They all sound toxic.

"Well they're nothing to do with ownership for a start. Not everything is a feminist issue, you do get that surely?"

I agree. Not everything is a feminist issue. But some things are. And naming women by their marital status is!

Why do you dislike Ms?

Yy Kitty you should have divorced your family too. The invite to xh and new wife speaks volumes.

Engaged for four years??? That's an awfully long time.

I have the opposite problem - I've been married over 20 years and still have a small group of uni friends (one in particular) who very pointedly and deliberately call me by my maiden name.

I'm not sure if it's a thing against DH (they didn't think he was good enough for me but you'd think 25 years together might have them questioning that) or because they think I did an anti feminist thing. However, I've made it very clear to them that taking his name was merely and only because my old name was vile and I grew up having the piss taken out of me (think Miss Bumwilly) and my married name is nice and normal (think Mrs Young/ Mrs Cook/ Mrs Davies) and much, much nicer for our DCs to grow up with. In fact, my brother has taken his wife's name for the same reason.

One friend sends Christmas cards to The BUMWILLY FAMILY in capitals, like that. We live very near my parents so the postman always delivers it to them instead. It's extremely frustrating!

All I can suggest, OP is to keep reiterating "that's not my name." But I can't offer much hope of change!