To be completely fucked off with MIL?

[Shambalaa]

Ok so it's step mother-in-law, I get on well with MIL.

SMIL calls DP her son. She found out a month ago we are expecting. DP phoned to tell his dad but SMIL was too ill to come to the phone.

She hasn't called to congratulate us. DP finally called her today. She's fine, wasn't even very ill apparently. I heard the whole conversation as she has a loud voice.

She asked how he was, had a long chat about his health etc. Then asked how his DD is, chatted about her, then asked how his EX is and chatted about how her and DP are getting on.

She finally asks "so when's the baby due?" No congratulations, no how's Shambalaa? I was really upset by this point. DP told her then starts talking about me, she changed the subject and asked whether she should send some clothes for his DD.

Before saying goodbye she says to send her love to me...

DP has asked me what's wrong...

Thank you

I think she wishes that your DP and his ex had worked things out but you came along and she places blame on you even though you had no part in your DP's marriage ending. I've seen this a few times, your SMIL loves your DP so couldn't get angry at him and she clearly loves his EX and her GD and so she wouldn't get angry at her but then you came along as (in her eyes) the interloper.

Try to realise that it's not you but your position as your DP's partner that makes her dislike you. Enjoy the fact that the rest of his family is great and eventually, perhaps when your child is born she may warm up...or not. Either way, you know she is a bitch. If I was in your situation I would keep my distance and show her how little I care about her attitude.

I really don't like her or the way she treats people. It would have been nice if we'd got on but I'm not going to lose any sleep over the fact we don't.

It does upset that DP chooses not to doesn't see it though.