Aibu to think my daughter is too old to be wetting herself?

[Gymboree567]

My daughters just turned 13, yes 13
She was potty trained at 3,
Has been dry from around 3.5 in the day and 4.5 by night
But the last 12 months (so from the age of 12) I've noticed stained underwear and smelly pyjamas/jeans
It's not like she is actually full on wetting herself, just dribbling maybe?
It seemed to coincide with her getting a laptop so I thought she was so engrossed in watching Netflix she was leaving it too late to go the toilet
I spoke to her about it and limited the laptop time
But it's still happening, she says she knows she is doing but is too lazy to go to the toilet!
She's very image conscious, lots of make up, always doing her hair, buying new clothes but doesn't seem bothered that she smells like a public toilet
Should I take her to the doctors? Has anyone else experienced this?
Thanks

Which is why people should just speak up on internet forums I suppose?

Cystitis?

I was going to suggest masturbation. In my early teens I used to explore and then it would bring on an urge to wee. I used to nick my mums sanitary towels to do it. I was about 11/12.

Echoing check for UTI required. Take a sample to the surgery when you go.... Sometimes just looking at the colour etc can give you a good indication about hydration levels, possible blood in urine or even if it cloudy - which can sometimes indicates an infection.

I'd want to have a chat about hygiene and odour about now, especially if her periods are possibly starting. Good Luck!

She drinks plenty of water, sometimes too much, I hear her around 10pm go get a pint of water some nights
I just put it down to all these little things

1 laziness
2 drinking too much late at night
3 not wiping (since a toddler she has been to lazy to wipe)
4 leaving it to the last minute (she has always done this)
5 too busy doing other activities and doesn't want going toilet to interrupt them
6 scared to use the school toilets

We are a open family and she can and does discuss things with me, although she maybe embarrassed this time, she has an older sister too who she confides in but she hasn't said anything to her about it

The gp is the way forward,

And it's urine, nothing else

Being new on here I struggle to find the correct category, so just put in aibu

Definitely a trip to the doctor needed.

Drinking more then usual can be a sign of diabetes, as can tiredness (possibly misconstrued as laziness)

Or UTI or hormonal.

Needs to be checked.

Please stop referring to your daughter as 'lazy', especially when she was a toddler.

It reads quite coldly.

My brother does this still, he's 14 in June. He's on medication for it and it doesn't happen when he is being prescribed the meds, the Drs stopped them a few weeks ago though and it's started again. They are going to think about stretching his bladder x

Unlikely that she'll admit this, but it could be that a full bladder is pleasurable for her.

Medical causes need to be ruled out first before speculating further on behavioural issues.

I had this. I was so embarrassed about it and tried lying to my mum. We had a fairly open house too. It went on for over a year before my mum basically caught me out. It was a uti and hormonal issue that caused me to dribble after. My mum took me to the drs and everything got sorted. Though she did call me a plonker for keeping it to myself

Your dd sounds like me tbh. Do you think she will talk to the dr or school nurse? It really does sound like she has a problem but is too embarrassed so is making up rubbish reasons.

Fyi you sound a bit like my mum. She wasn't as "fluffy" as some on MN are but she loves me dearly. She was just straight talking. People sometimes thought she was cold too but I knew better.

Gymboree, I hope it goes well at the drs. You sound fine and normal. But I'm going to give you a bit of advice, if you want to avoid the acerbic on mumsnet STOP POSTING IN AIBU :o I think there are quite a few posters who only ever use this section, who quite frankly aren't very nice people (though loads ARE nice too) . You'd have got better advice under health :)

Is she anxious OP?

Hi, definitely take her to the gp but also speak to the school nurse. There are nurses specifically trained in continence issues. It could be hormonal as muscles start to relax.
Made me smile about her doing her hair and makeup but not washing. I have one of those-lipstick but dirty teeth!
And children can be lazy and need prompting to wipe, wash hands etc.