To hate how everything has to be an experience

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And not just an experience or an event but one at the outer reaches of emotion. Nothing is every just alright or fine, or a good day out.

Bob and I had the most amazingly uplifting experience of our lives today when we took the kids to the park. Such an incredibly proud moment getting to see these precious people grow

Koala

Have any of you saw the meme which is something like ' excuse the mess the children were too busy making memories' I cringe when I see that

I think it does help to try and appreciate the everyday shit more though. Days spent freezing your butt off at the grim local park are the kind of days that a lot of people miss when their kids are grown up.

There's a saying about how one day you look back and realise that the little things were actually the big things. (I'm sure the wording is much better than my crap version).

Obviously bragging about it on social media is a bit silly and pretentious but I think if you privately reflect on your day this way or wrote this stuff in a personal gratitude journal it's actually really good.

(Yes, gratitude journal, vom, boak etc. The concept sounds a bit twee but there have been studies showing their positive effect on mental health.)

I've mentioned this before on mn, but I'm still bizarrely angered by it.

Article in NCT magazine; "My Babywearing Journey".

Parents had only bought a bloody sling ffs.

I see your point bayleaf. Nothing wrong with counting your blessings or appreciating small moments.
However, a baby wearing journey is frankly ridiculous unless you actually climbed to the summit of Ben Nevis with a baby strapped to your back for some reason.

I remember a friend who made her two children put on aprons after she had made cupcakes and smeared flour on their faces then spent ten minutes coaxing them to smile for a photo to put on social media with the caption 'Having lots of fun baking!'

Oh Christ, my SIL does that. 3 year old placed near a pile of beautifully cut and decorated biscuits. Hang on wait, I have two 3 year olds, I call bullshit. I'm just happy if the stuff makes it to the baking tray without landing on the floor.

Sadly, I find the best way to avoid all this is not posting anything on Facebook. I wouldn't be able to cope with it all. I was brought up in a competitive environment and staying away prevents me from being drawn into the competitiveness. But yes, nauseating.

I'm a bit guilty

No #makingmemories , nom nom-ing or #journey twoddle but I do post stuff we're doing with the biters, especially when we're all together.

Mind you, my whole family and the majority of my friends are half way around the World away and as far as I'm aware non of them are you and when I've had one of those days I have been known to post "Is it gin-o'clock yet?" so I'm forgiving myself on that basis

God, I am so lucky. I want to, no I NEED to thank a special person (you know who you are). I might not have enough money for all the things I see other people buying but I am rich in so many ways #hubster #babies #cherishedmoments blah blah blah vom vom vom.

Slightly different, but still social media/buzzword related. Why is everything on Pinterest currently 'borderline genius'?

i.e. Ten top recycling tips that are borderline genius.

They very rarely are.

And there's a weird one on Facebook as well - 'Watch this video of XXX. What happens next will blow your mind/leave you speechless.'

I watch and wait for my mind to be blown and nothing out of the ordinary actually happens.

Am I missing something?

You find that on You tube too. "Reaching out" for a certain music track, someone has posted The Very Best version and it will turn out to be some extended mix, lasting 10 minutes and bears no relation to the original.

I came off FB as I got fed up with all the like if you care stuff.

Or the claims of something being "hilarious". Meanwhile, you sit there stony faced.

Kungfu, agree. Similar is 'blah de blah broke the internet. No it fecking didn't!

And while we're at it can we reach consensus on the horror that is grown women referring to their mothers as 'mumsy' and (bleugh) 'mumma'.

Oh yes and fern cotton 'loving these kale and radish protein balls #scrummy' - EAT A BLOODY TWIX, WOMAN.

Uterus , YABU for reading the NCT magazine.

If only we could ban fucking hashtags from facebook id be very happy. Especially when there's 15,001 attached to one status.

Wait till the mother daughter precious bonding timeat costa coffeestarts your head will explode I blame facebook when my kids were small you went to the park and went home

koala that was hilarious!!

Please, please, please MNHQ, put this thread as your FB post! I have just suffered the parent's evening bullshit posts and have had to sit on my hands to not say "Well, teacher says DC is a feckless, ne'er do well but fits in perfectly with the rest of the class!"

If I have to delete anymore '#feelingblessed' users, I won't have anyone left on FB.

They have buzzard that's a first for me!

I have been guilty.
When my eldest was 3 we made gingerbread men. I made him do most of the work and put a picture of the results on facebook. I was happy that I'd prevented him from eating enough of the mix that we could actually make a few biscuits. However, there was no artful posing and the gingerbread men all looked like they'd been in serious accidents.
I hate most of the things mentioned in this thread including "share if you love your son!" memes. Nah, I've gone off him today, I don't think I will.

Just for chocolate1985!

Oh, it hasn't shown on mine yet.

kungfu I don't fall for the "what happened next will blow your mind stuff", I think it's called click baiting, basically getting more likes to their page
I occasionally feel inadequate when I see friends posting their Boden-catalogue lifestyles, and say things like how blessed they are and every moment enriches their lives. Sure, I love my kids, and would hate to be without them but not every fecking minute! Particularly when 2 of them are playing the recorder (badly)

anyway, maybe park bench parents posted their lovely inspirational picture/quote just before the DC trod in a dog shit 💩

Its getting ridiculous. #feelingnauseousfuckoffandjusteatyourroastedcheeseandgotobedliketherestofuswithoutafanfare