For DH and me not to go to MIL's birthday lunch?

[puglife15]

I have a 3 week old EBF newborn and a toddler.

DSIL and her children all have had a vomiting bug in the past day or two, they'd been hanging out with other DSIL and PILS yesterday.

We met DSILs and PILs today (they didn't tell us beforehand about the bug ) - DSIL who was sick last night didn't hold the baby or anything but of course we can't be sure none of the others is incubating it now.

Tomorrow we are all meant to be going out for MIL'S birthday lunch, it's a big birthday.

I really really don't want any of us to get the bug, AIBU not to go and to suggest to DH he doesn't go either? Am I being massively precious?

I would have had no difficulty taking a 3 week old out for lunch (ours had been to a wedding and a weekend by the seaside by 2.5 weeks, all relaxed and no fuss) but I realise it is very different with reflux.

But no way would I put myself in the way of a vomiting bug, or think it a good idea for an household member to do so.

And if it was my own big birthday I would do all I could to dissuade parents of a newborn from risking infection , to themselves or the baby.

No way would I go and I wouldn't be gappy if dh did either. My ds2 got a sickness bug when he was 16 weeks and was very very ill with it, he lost over 1lb in weight and was almost admitted due to dehydration. No way on earth would I risk it with a 3 week old.

Yes you may have already caught it but that's no reason to purposely expose all of you to it again.

The sensible thing would be to rearrange it for next weekend. I can't imagine anyone who cones into contact with them at the restaurant would be happy either.

I would like to think that if I were the MIL I would specifically say to you and your DH that you should not all
Come given circs and that we'd do something separate in a few weeks - only prolongs the celebrations anyway. 3 wk old baby comes first

I think DH is planning on not going now as well. I didn't put pressure on him but probably influenced him indirectly by saying I didn't want to go and telling him not to touch anyone and to wash his hands

I feel bad about it but hope they'll understand. I don't think it will go down very well tbh.

tinyterrors that must have been awful for you. There are so many bugs around at the moment, I'm terrified of getting one!

I think DH is planning on not going now as well.

I hope he is going to tell them sooner rather than later

If they had a fever with the bug, I definitely wouldn't go. If a baby under three months gets a temp of 38 or above they have to go to hospital. My lo caught a virus when he was 2 weeks old, took him to dr expecting to be sent home but ended up with three nights in hospital.
I'd definitely rather risk upsetting the in laws over the worry of a poorly baby.
YANBU

My mil would have been strongly supportive of none of us going, because nobody in their right mind risks exposing 3 week old babies to d&v.

YANBU. All stay home. But don't worry about incubating from the contact yesterday.... Vomming bugs rarely incubate for long, it's just you stay infectious afterwards for a bit.