AIBU to not refill her lunchbox?

[Joolsy]

I make DD (yr 7) a lovely substantial, healthy-ish lunch for school every day. She comes home from school and I have to ask her at least 3 times to empty it. I then wash it up and refill it for the next day. I've said to her, if she doesn't empty it, I won't refill it.

I'm sick and tired of asking her several times every day to do this simple job. Same again today - lunchbox is still in her school bag. I've asked her twice so am now considering not asking her again, then tomorrow she'll go to grab her lunch from the fridge and it won't be there.

WIBU in the hope she'll learn to do it without nagging? My only hesitation in doing this is that she'll be in a mad panic and will make us all late for school/work etc while she/I rush around sorting out her lunch.

[mathanxiety]

Anyone can make lunch appear. But to make lunch and to clean up afterwards and to do this every time is a good habit. If you don't do it very often you forget the cleaning up afterwards bit, I have noticed. This is the 'magic' part that surprises many a freshman at university.

We all pull together by each of us doing what needs doing for ourselves How, though, is this really practical?
They each have a laundry basket, and about two weeks worth of clothing, including underwear, pajamas, socks, and in winter scarves and gloves and hats. They don't wear uniform in school so there are lots of jeans or leggings and Ts and other tops, and no urgency about certain clothes being needed on certain days. There is easily enough to put on a wash at that two week interval, especially when they throw in their own sheets and pillow slips. They plan their own time, when they'll get things done, and find they have plenty of downtime.

Other people doing different things' so often means 'other people watching telly in a state of blithe indifference'. And it often means "other parents refusing to accept that their way is not the only right way and isn't superior to what many others do"
The way things get done in my home works for everyone there. It's a tight space and there is just one bathroom. It also suits what I see as my parenting role -- to teach and not to just get things done. It's not superior to anything anyone else does. It may reflect a different end. To go back to SohowdoIdothis' post, I believe facilitating every detail of my DCs' lives would not be helpful in the long run to them, but undoubtedly in the short term I would have everything done exactly how I wanted it done.