Ok for the record I have children ranging from 25 down to 11, with a few in-between, and others that are here when they need care. I didn't start yesterday.
I have a relative who not so long ago spent millions on research for a selection of universities , because they had a major problem, the students who had gained a place on courses where you have to be extremely accomplished in an academic way, were dropping out like flies, this costs the Universities a lot of money when they lose first year students.
These students had achieved the highest possible results in science and maths, in order to get a place.
The results of the investigations brought up the common problem, these students had managed to achieve because they had a certain type of support, from their parents/carers.
These children have had people that facilitated their lives, healthy meals, clean beds, laundry done, make to shower daily, reminders to get rest and to sleep. Generally what is thought to be wonderful parenting.
When they got to Uni, they went from being the top student in the room to being the same as the others, a new experience for all of them.
It transpired that almost none of them were prepared for self management, you can only be a high achiever if you are carefully looked after, when you don't understand how to feed yourself regular health meals, keep your bed clean, manage your own laundry and regulate your own hygiene and sleep, you will not thrive.
Now to get onto these courses they require you to do a year in industry away from home in order for these very intelligent people to learn about the importance self management.
How ever hard it is, and inconvenient, do not do tasks for your child that they should be capable of doing themselves it will damage their chances long term.
If you install in them confidence that they can do these simple tasks for themselves they will find these things easier and easier, part of making food is leaving a clean space behind you.
Children like to feel self reliant and accomplished at life, doing tasks for them because it is more convenient for you, is only going to make life far harder for them in the long term.