To ask DM to have DS in her room on holiday?

[Bellasima20]

Hi all
We want to head to a nice resort in Austria in June and offer to treat my DM to this, flights and room, to thank her for all of her help with DS childcare and enjoy a fmaily holiday all together.
DS is 2, t sleeps 7-7 at night without waking (95% of time).
DM adores him and her her, and is an early riser herself, think 5-6am.

Looked at hotel and if we tried to book a room for DS in cot as well as new baby (would be 3 months old then) and our room would be double price and we couldn't afford it.
I havnt yet asked/invited DM on holiday, but wandered if I can suggest/ ask we have baby in our room and if if shed be ok with DS sleeping in her room with her? Considering he does sleep through and in day time there is also a kids club where he would go for some of the day and the rest obviously spend with us, so Id ensure DM could escape to her room, on her own in daytime. Would just be at night?

Or does this sound like a holiday with conditions?

My Mum would love it. However, I would book a room for us and one DC and then just take a travel cot for the baby. Your Mum can then offer if she wants to, or have a couple of nights if she likes, or whatever.

Well, I've just bought a z-bed and duvet for my grand who will be arriving with her dad at the end of the month for a couple of days.shes now 8. Ive massively downsized and he'll be on the sofa in the living room. Or on the floor, his choice , she'll be in my room.

Any tv watching, but why should there be?, genuinely puzzled, will be the main one for the news, then iPads etc. For anything else. But I spect we'll be too busy being together and catching up and drinking

And yes, DS asked if they should book into an hotel to save me 'inconvenience' just... why ?

I'm sortov hoping that DS will have time to hook up with old school friends too while he's in this part of the world.....all the more time for grand and I to reconnect.

For those that are amazed at why, I think for me it's how it was asked. Fair enough a straight forward trip with childcare involved, but presenting it as a "treat" is not fair.
I have a GM who adores DS, they share a room regularly, adore each other, lots of chats etc.
I would still offer her a separate room on hols. At least then she has the CHOICE.

I think the main issue is if the baby goes go bed early, who will be with him all evening? Unless you are prepared to leave him alone in a hotel bedroom with a baby monitor?

For this reason I think self-catering is a much better idea with children this age.

I am a GP and would have no problem sharing with GC. We have often done this to keep costs down . When they stay with us they often climb in our bed in the morning. The conversation is great

I'm always a bit surprised at people taking young children to hotels for holidays. They go to bed early and you can't leave them on their own so someone's got to sit in the dark with them all evening. Seems crazy to me.

Go self catering so you'll have a separate lounge area for adults to sit in in the evening. My MIL shared a room with my 4yo DD on holiday last year and it worked fine because she only had to sneak in to go to bed, and then not even that sneakily as DD is a deep sleeper.

Also, my MIL came on the holiday specifically to help with childcare, we all got along famously and had a lovely time. If you want to do something nice for your mum to say thanks for childcare then offering her more childcare duties isn't the right thing. Just say you'd love to have her on holiday with you but understand if actually she'd prefer a break from the kids and see what she says.