DD's Cousin Sharing With Her Adult Uncle

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Have namechanged for this - have been around for many a year though.

My DD's dad's (my XH) family are from overseas - they all used to live here until about 2 years ago when they all (except for DD's dad and grandmother) returned to their home country. There is currently talk about her eldest cousin coming back over to live with her grandma and uncle in their flat - she is currently 15.

I've been told in passing by DD that her cousin will be sharing bunk beds with her uncle (her grandma has medical problems so cannot share I believe) when she moves in. Now this doesn't sit right with me - a 15 year old girl sharing with a 35 year old man! Surely at 15 (mid-puberty) she would need her privacy at the very least. I'm struggling to find any form of law or guidance online to validate my concerns but I'm pretty sure i'm being reasonable with my worries?

Would appreciate your take on this and what I can do other than voice my concerns to XH and hope he takes them on board and acts accordingly (although I'm not quite sure what can be done considering the space limitations).

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If this is a council or HA property there are no rules to say that the family will be given a bigger property as they have made the decision to overcrowd the property themselves. They could of course go on the waiting list for a transfer to a larger property. Is there a reason why the adult man can't move out and rent a room nearby himself?

SprongPicnic his life is somewhat haphazard and finances (although on a somewhat reasonable salary) never seem to stretch to doing that, admittedly even renting a room in a shared place in London is a fortune these days! He is also very dependent on his mother (even with her ailments) and almost childlike with his perspective on life and priorities (but to be fair to him he has very rarely missed or been late with his maintenance for DD).

I'm going to have a chat with him and see if he would consider her somehow sharing with her grandmother. I really would love for her to be with us, but just can't at the moment - what we can do though is offer her some respite (weekends and maybe some parts of the holidays with us if she wants).