To think Dh is responsible for buying this?

[Cloudybutwarm]

Ok it's slightly irrelevant as I'm a sahm so all our money comes from one source, it's more about the principal of the matter!

Dh snores. I mean snores like a train. Most nights. He is also a very heavy sleeper. I've survived it over the years but it has meant a lot of restless nights for me, which was manageable until we had children, and as the lucky person who deals with all the night wakings I really resent any further disturbance to my sleep!

A few months ago i heard about a mouldable mouth guard thing that had good reviews for helping stop snoring. I sent the info to Dh, he ordered one, and IT WORKED! Not 100% but the improvement was massive.

Now, the thing is they cost about £60 and over time they stretch and stop working and you need to get a new one... As is happening with dhs now - he's started snoring again even with it in. I said to him he needed to order a new one, and he said he thought I should pay for it! This is on the basis that his snoring is a problem for me and not a problem for him I feel that he's the one who does it, therefore it's down to him.

What do you think?!

I don't see how it matter who buys it. As your money comes from him, only the one source his paying for it any way. Does it matter who orders it?

I'd just order the thing so I could get some sleep

I think the fact that he doesn't seem to care about the effect it has on you or the fact that he leaves all the getting up to tend to the kids in the night, more worrying.

Do you not think it's wrong for someone who is supposed to love you to treat you with so little respect?

Another one saying to wake him up every time he snores. Ensure he owns the problem - I also second the idea for him to go to the GP to check if there is help for him.

Interesting, if slightly less than scientific study on the affects of reduced sleep...

gizmodo.com/how-many-nights-of-mediocre-sleep-are-the-same-as-no-sl-1763343473

During the testing, the psychologists found unusual equivalences—one being that going with only six hours of sleep for two weeks was no better than going for two days with zero sleep

His snoring is a problem for both of you, however he is the one who needs to resolve it... Or you could take it on, and buy a very pointy stick

People asking where to get the mouth guards - there are a whole variety of them on ebay, search sleep apnea, prob the same for Amazon.

I don't think there is an ear plug invented that could block out the seasoned snorer. I've also measured dh on a decibel meter and that was the point he sought professional advice.
We had sleep studies etc which concluded he had a pattern of snoring for about ten minutes every half hour. This meant just as I'd nod off properly he'd start again. He was prescribed a mouth guard and was told to go to our dentist. The cost was somewhere around £150. He refused to pay it.
2 years on he's in the spare room because it's gotten to the stage where I can't function. He's finally admitted he needs to sort it and is returning to the GP.

OP buy the thing from the joint pot and be done with. He needs to start considering you. Whilst dh did consider me and sleep in the spare room I'm still annoyed that he'd rather sleep apart than buy the bloody thing so you have my every sympathy.

For those asking which one it is, link here

Yabu to bicker about who pays because it's all joint money

Yanbu to say that it's his problem because he's the one who does it.