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to let 12 year old dd walk home?

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Jw35 · 07/03/2016 14:29

My 12 year old wants to walk 2.5 miles home from her secondary school. She usually uses the public bus as I don't drive but she has to wait 25 minutes for it and it's often late.

She's a little overweight (not massively but could do with exercise). At the moment she currently does no regular exercise and I can't afford dance lessons and other things (which she would do). She refuses to cycle, her bike has hardly been used and she's outgrown it now. I'd buy her a new one but only if she would use it!

She's absolutely fine crossing roads etc. My fear is that she walks along a stretch of main road where there are no houses for some of the journey. I'm probably a bit paranoid but I worry about someone stopping and forcing her into a car!

Is that a realistic fear? Or should I give her this independence? She's happy to walk, wants to do it. She doesn't have a friend who walks home or lives in our village (unfortunately).

She's walked home once and will do so again today. I just need a bit of reassurance I'm not irresponsible? She will be 13 in September, she's year 7. Thanks

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eatsleephockeyrepeat · 08/03/2016 12:49

If it makes you feel better, school kicking out time means every main road will be busy with the vehicles of parents and children from all the nearby schools - a terrible time for would-be child abductors to hold up traffic.

You could have a little sit-down chat about what to do in case of emergencies though; any emergency she's likely to encounter, not just the extremely unlikely situation your envisaging. Things like if she hurts herself or feels unwell en route, if someone is talking to or following her and she doesn't want them to, if she witnesses a car accident, all these sorts of "life skills" type scenarios to run through. You can get a good feel for her maturity level with how she would react, but mainly you can give her good tips than will stand her in good stead right up through uni and young adulthood.

And let her walk! Walking's so good for the body and mind after a long day.

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