Aibu to think this site has some contradictory ideas about relationships!

[wherethewildthingis]

Obviously not all posters, but the prevailing trend often!
"I found a profile of my h on a dating site, not sure if its old or recent, posting for advice"
"Get your ducks in a row, prepare to LTB".

"I've just had a baby, my ILS live 200 miles away, they want to visit next week and stay over, I don't want them to but my H does."
"He needs to prioritise his family of creation over his family of origin! If he can't do that, tell him to move back to his Mum!"

"My H didn't help my three year old get me anything at all for mothers day, not even a cheap card or a single daffodi. The last time he bought me anything was 1993. I don't usually mind or complain, but last week I had major surgery and the three year old is in tears because she didn't get me anything."
"Your H is not your child! Don't be so materialistic! You're lucky he put s a roof over your selfish head and allows you to be a mum!"

AIBU to find this a bit strange?!

that made me laugh OP

AnyFucker I honestly don't know the names of individual posters who I think do that. It's just a perception of how those threads go, as I said.

But I apologise if my phrasing was shitty. I will un-passive aggressive/rephrase my words:

I get the impression that there are some posters who hang around relationships with quite decided views, and tend to be the first to post on threads and end up setting the tone of the thread, whether that be LTB or whatever.

The problem with uttering a general opinion or impression of the relationships board or any board (like the OP and I have done) is that it's just impossible to verify that perception. Those who don't agree can very easily ask for "specific examples" which they can't drum up if it's just a perception they have.

I also don't think the OP is targeting anyone in particular (and neither am I)

I was just throwing my hat into the ring and saying I have that perception too.

Momentarily irritated there Sticky!

Anyfucker it's a bit rich to criticise someone for being shitty re their writing style whilst complaining it that it makes others feel shitty.

This thread wasn't about support it was about contradictions. The problem with relationship threads is working out if someone needs support to stay or a kick up the Arsenal to leave.

I don't think the "tone" of any thread is ever set, crunchy.

I often see threads where there seems to be a general consensus one way, for the first few posts, but then someone else comes on with a conflicting opinion, and others come on and agree with them.

Posters who broadly agree with each other may have conflicting views on some points, on the same thread.

Also, quite often, there may be two apparently similar scenarios, where one thread goes in one direction, and the second in the opposite direction.

I have to find it a bit bizarre when an OP comes on and says, "you mumsnetters are all like this!" Seemingly missing the point they they, too are a mumsnetter.

crunchy I agree with the part that you crossed out. But equally, I also try to avoid that board as I think most of it is made up. Incidentally I think most of AIBU is also made up but on Relationships there are far greater emotional vampires iyswim.