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Original poster

AIBU to think the presents I bought my mum for Mother's Day presents are rubbish? :(

52 replies

AprilDHarvey · 05/03/2016 13:11

Hello everyone!
I'm already very forgetful but due to some recent events I won't go into my memory and organisation have been even worse lately. This led to me hectically buying my mum a gift for Mother's Day today, on my lunch break.

I bought her a tiny box of chocolates as none of the bigger boxes were left, gloves, thermal socks, a card and two jumpers. To explain the gloves and socks, she rides a bike to and from work six days a week, she's been complaining recently her feet are always freezing hence the socks and the gloves are specifically for bike riding.

Do you think this enough? I feel terrible for leaving it so last minute and grabbing things off the shelves without putting much thought into them :(

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BastardGoDarkly · 05/03/2016 14:22

Unless your mams a grasping weirdo, she'll be chuffed to bits!? What do you normally get her??!

Chrisinthemorning · 05/03/2016 14:23

Sounds like a lot to me.
My mum has slippers from M&S from me and a tiny plant from DS.
MIL has plants from both DH and DS. Both have cards and are being taken out for lunch.
We don't go mad on Mothers' Day. I think I'll be getting a card and a scented candle (DH has taken DS out shopping now while I soak in the bath).

KurriKurri · 05/03/2016 14:23

Sounds lovely to me - If I got all that I'd think it was Christmas !

I had completely missed the fact that it was mothers Day until thursday so I hastily ordered my Mum some flowers online as had left it too late to get out and buy and post something - so really not a gift filled with thought, but they are freesias which are her favourites so hopefully she'll enjoy them.

BennyTheBall · 05/03/2016 14:28

It sounds completely fine.

If you're not happy, go and change the gifts or get more or something.

ByThePrickingOfMyThumbs · 05/03/2016 14:35

I think that's quite a lot personally. My mum is getting kindle vouchers from me as they are what she asked for. I think my brother is getting her some naice hand cream.

Is your mum a bit high maintenance?

Mouseinahole · 05/03/2016 14:37

I will get a card from dd and nothing from ds who won't know it is MD as he lives abroad. I truly don't mind, I know I am loved.

SukeyTakeItOffAgain · 05/03/2016 14:38

That's loads quite a lot to get for just Mother's Day.

It has become another Christmas for mothers i.e. one where advertising and social media are encouraging people to think that spending loads is the new normal.

GrumpyOldBag · 05/03/2016 14:43

My Mum will be getting a text from me (as we won't be seeing her).

If we were seeing her tomorrow I would also have picked a bunch of daffodils from the garden.

I think there is a secret hidden agenda to the OP's post, but can't quite get what it is...

Yohoodlum · 05/03/2016 14:44

That seems like loads. I don't ge my mum anything but I'm a lovely daughter every other day of the year. I do birthdays and Xmas but not Mother's Day. My adult DC do the same. Mother's Day is naff.

fusionconfusion · 05/03/2016 14:48

My mother and MIL got identikit Interflora flowers in a jug that I could order today because I suddenly realised I'd forgotten to send a card, I'm not sure what your worry is?

EweAreHere · 05/03/2016 14:56

Are you just trying to make the rest of us look bad or feel bad... ?

Pseudo341 · 05/03/2016 14:59

Sounds massively over the top to me, are you really rich? I guess it depends what you normally get her, only you know how it compares.

I've never received more than a card (written by the teacher!) for mother's day as my kids are still little. My mum and MIL will get a card and bunch of flowers each.

LaContessaDiPlump · 05/03/2016 15:02

That's loads! My mum used to get a card and maybe something from the grandchildren, such as a card they'd drawn or with their footprints or something.

There may be something in the 'Christmas for Mothers' theory - I passed a woman in Tesco today whose trolley had about 6 or 7 bouquets in it, plus gift-type items Shock either they spoil their mothers in that house or it's a very complicated blended family set-up! Alas, I will never know nosey bastard here

WitchWay · 05/03/2016 15:03

I/we send flowers & a card to DM & DMIL

Ginslinger · 05/03/2016 15:14

that's a lot of presents for mothers' day - she'll be delighted

Original poster
AprilDHarvey · 05/03/2016 15:17

Thank you to those who have been kind and thoughtful but wow. I can't believe the ridiculous conclusions people are jumping to over a silly Mother's Day post, and the accusations of boasting are equally ridiculous.

No, my mum is not high-maintenance and she isn't overly critical of me either. Quite the opposite actually. I'm not boasting, why on earth would I think to myself, "My gifts are great. I'm great. Better make sure everyone on MN knows how terrible they are in comparison." As for rich, I wish. The socks were £1, the gloves were £1, the card was £1, the chocolates £2 and both jumpers £7. I've spent £20 in total.

For the record, my dad died in September and I thought a few extra things on Mother's Day would perk her up and I only wish I had more time to think of something really useful or nice.

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FigMango1 · 05/03/2016 15:19

I'm Confused as to why you think this isn't enough. All are practical and I'm sure she will like them.

JT05 · 05/03/2016 15:22

April you sound a lovely caring daughter, that any mum would be proud of. You have brought a tear to my eyes. Flowers for you.

Your mum has obviously brought you up to be thoughtful and considerate.

Buttons23 · 05/03/2016 15:22

That sounds fine op!

I just got my mum a small box of chocolates and a owl teddy(she collects owls). Mother's Day isn't that huge for us because it's mum's birthday in March so we tend to make more of a fuss then.

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AprilDHarvey · 05/03/2016 15:34

Thank you, JT05! That's so sweet of you to take the time to say Flowers

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timemaychangeme · 05/03/2016 15:35

My dd is in her 30's and there is a package waiting to be opened for me tomorrow. I don't care what is in there and I hope she hasn't spent loads on me. I've been more than happy the years I've had a card and no gifts. Your gifts sounds thoughtful and I hope they really cheer your Mum up. And it's lovely that you want to spoil her a bit more than usual right now. There are no 'rules' but lots of pressure around this day. Do what feels right for you is the way to go imo.

AdoraBell · 05/03/2016 15:37

You have put thought into the presents. You listened when she said her feed are cold when she cycles, and you bought gloves made for use when cycling.

I am sure she Will love her Mother's day presents.

Well done.

Original poster
AprilDHarvey · 05/03/2016 15:43

Thank you everyone! I just realised I typed September instead of December when talking about my fathers death. He died in December which is why my mum is still very upset about it.

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mrsjskelton · 05/03/2016 16:56

You're adorable OP Grin have a lovely Mother's Day!

Pinkheart5915 · 05/03/2016 17:37

They sound thoughtful gifts to me lovely ideas.

For my mum I got a box of chocolates, card and her fave perfume and from my baby for his granny got a framed photo with his foot and hand print

Hubby got mother in law a jumper, slippers and flowers and the same from our baby.

We are also taking them out to afternoon tea