On my birthdays, on anniversaries--on Mothers Day...We've been married for the past decade. Together since Uni.
Magically, three days before every event thats supposed to celebrate me somehow he's in bed having the worst illness of his life.
Last week I was sick, it was my birthday and I was working away from home. He was also working away from home in the same country I was in. (we travel tonnes for work).
He came to see me after his assignment was over and picked fights with me whenever I could spare time to spend with him. So if he wasn't in bed pretending to be on his deathbed 'god father style' he would say things that were devastating in their own ways.
Literally he thought he was in some movie so would pick an absurd thing to say ie: "I've decided to quit work and self fund a book."
We can't afford for either of us giving up our jobs. We work for money for a reason. We NEED the MONEY. Money stresses us both out.
So when I looked at him and said "thats not a funny idea, surely you can write your book after we've built up a better financial buffer" he got up and walked off.
The next day I had a few hours off to celebrate my birthday and what did he do? rolled around the floor pretending like he couldn't breathe.
Tomorrow is mothers day--and guess whose still in bed? Every time I go in there he moans, cries a little and does three dramatic gasp-coughs.
I'm just too busy to actually say or do anything, because I really don't have the time to bring it up and deal with his drama. On normal days he's okay.
I love him, the kids love him. I guess I just have to stop expecting him to put me first on birthdays, anniversaries and holidays. I suppose I could stop.
On his birthday-he gets upset if he's disturbed from anything.