AIBU to want to keep plans as arranged (or a mardy cow)

[PoppieD]

So far- pregnancy has been really hard- hyperemesis which has led to hospital admissions so friends (4 of us in loooong time 20+years) have treated me to spa day-ie
all go, they split my cost.
'Sarah' has always seen herself as queen bee and likes to be in control of things.
So as not to drip feed, she is only single with no kids so this is where I may be being unreasonable as she may not understand others logistics! Other 2 girls both have dc under 4 so planning has gone in to trip as partners work shifts and leave has had to be used which I am really grateful for. Spa is at remote country spa which can't get to on public transport. Plan was Julie picks each of us up around 10- Sarah has now sent group whatsapp about 2am saying 'ended up clubbing yayyy so we'll need to push pick up tomorrow back as I'm going to be rough haha' she doesn't drive so can't get to spa without one of us hanging back to take her. AIBU to say 'sorry plan stays same' or am I being too mardy and its really not a big deal to lose a few hours in the spa? (All in our 30s, not that should make a difference!)

[lem73]

YANBU. You are lucky though to have such kind friends (apart from queen bee!)
Have a lovely day.

[diddl]

Nothing to do with having kids/being single.

It's being selfish!

You have arranged to be collected at 10am.

If getting in pissed at 3am makes that a problem, don't get home pissed at 3am!

[Littlef00t]

If it's quite far away and she's just sitting in the back, can't see the hardship. Plus it's clearly self inflicted.

[PennyHasNoSurname]

Oh my word how idiotic of her! She is relying on lifts yet calli g the shots on pick up times. She comes at ten or makes her own way there.

[DamsonInDistress]

So was she ready on time or did you go without her?!

[AuntJane]

YANBU. She knew she had plans for the next day, yet chose to go out.

[rollonthesummer]

Was she ready at 10?

[BarbaraofSeville]

YANBU. Regardless of whatever responsibilities anyone has, the arrangement is to meet at 10, she knew that. She's wanting to spoil others day due to her selfishness, which is not on. I hope you went at 10 as planned and if she wasn't ready she missed out or had your find her own way there.

[NotQuiteSoOnEdge]

Hope you are happily spa-ing.

[PoppieD]

Just for closure- lovely day after some initial grumpiness and heavy sighing about roughness but just generally ignored this and jollied along- felt was good initial practice for toddler years, and has given me a bit more confidence in not being steamrolled into stuff not happy about due to not wanting to be seen as 'confrontational' !

[HackerFucker22]

How long was she planning to push it back by?

[HackerFucker22]

Whoops missed the update.

[eddielizzard]

well done! feels good not to be walked over doesn't it?

you have some really great friends tho. def worth holding on to.