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Is 16 and adult or a child?

114 replies

CalleighDoodle · 04/03/2016 13:26

Not a thread about a thread. Actually a thread about two threads so technically...

Ive read today very different responses to questions about people the same age. Similar issues (sexual relationships). different sexes.

How can a female at 16 be called an adult who should be allowed to do what she wants, despite that behaviour being very risky, yet a male at 16 is a child who shouldnt date one person 6/7 years older?

I know a number of late-teen women who married men at least 10 years older than them. Is that ok because they are a more adulty adult that a 16 year old woman, and much more of an adult of a 16 year old 'boy'?

Aibu here or is the sexism on a women's forum towards women really quite unbelievable?

OP posts:
Joeperrysguitar · 04/03/2016 18:55

Merrymouse and Trills The Americans 'borrowed, it from the Magna Carta, circa 1215 and is still part of UK law today.

merrymouse · 04/03/2016 19:11

No, 'no taxation without representation' is not British law. Anyone who puts petrol in their car or buys a chocolate bar from the garage pays tax, even if they are just visiting the UK for a day. Companies pay tax. Children pay tax. Prisoners and people in a coma pay tax. People with UK income who have never set foot in the UK pay UK income tax.

'No taxation without representation' might sound good, but that isn't how the tax system works.

LifeofI · 04/03/2016 19:57

male or female 16 is a child and its morally wrong for people of a certain age to chase after young teens of this age.

IPityThePontipines · 05/03/2016 11:07

Have now stumbled across the two threads in question. Shock At the difference in tone between the teenage boy and teenage girl one.

From such threads and many similar, It seems that a teenage girl being sexually desired is a normal, positive thing that isn't to be discouraged and can't be discouraged.

Whereas for a teenage boy, it is very wrong indeed and something that they are to be protected from.

It's very disturbing.

GoblinLittleOwl · 05/03/2016 11:21

I would say a minor, that is not fully able to take responsibility for own actions, yet definitely not a child, physically or emotionally.

Gouthe · 28/10/2018 12:21

In the uk adult, at 16 you can legally leave home

TeddybearBaby · 28/10/2018 12:23

16 year child boy and child girl for me!

Natjust · 08/12/2022 05:27

Wow there was a lot of false responses and completely misleading views(ANS). A child is “biologically” “factually” someone between birth and puberty/adole. At 16 year are not below puberty or even in puberty but literally a grown individual. Some of you have to be really dumb with your answers like not to mention by this age and time you can literally hold a job, drive, consent to much of anything. So many other things as well. They are youth not young like 6 though dummies lol🤦. The actual answer too this since the question is misleading is that they are adolescents. That is past child age but just below full blown adult. At 16 you are literally leaning more towards adult then anything though. They are gradually maturing much by then but yes the overall specific answer though is that they are adolescents literally in the later half much just about then.

Sparklingbrook · 08/12/2022 05:43

Wow a Zombie thread.

Zanatdy · 08/12/2022 05:47

16 is still a child yes. 18 obviously in an adult, my son is 18 and I do still think of him as a child, even though he’s at Uni having a blast, he just seems young still to me. But obviously he’s old enough to drink, have sex etc, and he’s having a great time doing both I think since he got his first girlfriend!! My daughter who is 14 seems more adult but boys do mature slower

Sparklingbrook · 08/12/2022 05:51

I first replied on this thread back in 2016 when I actually did have a 16 year old 😂

Justmore · 08/12/2022 06:49

This is a old post😂 but nat clearly most are basing this by the fact we’re all just so many years older and see the young and youth as babies to life or just about anything they comes up not technically speaking of course. You are right though speaking by facts at 16 you are nothing close to being a actual child. Like you pointed out adolescents is what comes after child age, just before adult. It’s completely different. They are of course young still. Enjoying ones youth is all good.😎

Sparklingbrook · 08/12/2022 07:04

We're all 6 years older than when the thread started. Grin

My 16 year old is now nearly 23 and very much an adult. But that said even adults of any age resort to childish behaviour every now and again.

MilkyYay · 08/12/2022 07:49

16 year olds vary hugely. Some are quite mature, others are very childlike. I would still be concerned about any 16 year old in a relationship with someone much older, regardless.

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