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I want to go out clubbing on my own AIBU?

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ClaudiaApfelstrudel · 02/03/2016 20:20

I really want to go out clubbing but I have nobody to go with I've been raising a family for a long time now and I feel a buzz to go out again before it's too late.

Have any other mums been out on there own is it safe to go what kind of things might I expect?? or AIBU and should I just not bother!

OP posts:
KenLeeDibidibidabdoo · 02/03/2016 21:04

I don't think I could go on my own, I'd feel a bit awkward. Although when I go with friends I usually go off dancing on my own!

Where are you? I'll go with you!

bornwithaplasticspoon · 02/03/2016 21:05

My idea of hell but if you want to do it - go for it! It would be more fun with a friend though? Ask everyone you know, you never know someone might be gagging to do the same.

Palomb · 02/03/2016 21:10

Depends what sort of music ime. I used to go clubbing in my own loads and always had a good time but this was with the aid of disinhibiting substances 😆. You could post on the clubs fb page and see if there's anyone else going you could meet up with?

FigMango1 · 02/03/2016 21:14

I think this is the one 'activity' it would look a bit mad to be on your own. Presumably you are going to dance, bit sad to be dancing by yourself. I wouldn't but maybe you are braver than me!

SouthPole · 02/03/2016 21:15

I've done it when I'm in the mood!

I love love love dance music (proper 90's girl) and I've gone out and had a proper good dance. Got in the car and gone home!

I'll come with you! I feel the urge coming on me for a night out too!

Palomb, I'm with you on the dis-inhibiting substances too - they help!

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 02/03/2016 21:20

I am feeling my lost yoof at the moment Blush so I'd be in!

Let's go.

NantucketNightbird · 02/03/2016 21:24

I don't drink but would love a night out to get all dresses up and dance, can I tag along?

NantucketNightbird · 02/03/2016 21:24

*dressed Blush

SouthPole · 02/03/2016 21:26

A Midlands meet up?!

(am in Midlands, can you tell?!).

Go clubbing in Birmingham, I'll bring the molly, someone else get the powder...

GreatFuckability · 02/03/2016 21:27

I go to gigs by myself. Clubs and anything with loud music aren't really that sociable anyway are they? And I always find someone to chat to when queuing etc

TooOldForGlitter · 02/03/2016 21:30

I've been on my own. It's easy to chat to people when everyone is drunk relaxed. Where are you OP? Have you been on the MN local boards and had a look if anyone's looking for friends?

cornishglos · 02/03/2016 21:30

I used to go clubbing on my own. I moved about a bit as a young person. I always hoped to meet people, but if I didn't I still got to have a night out.

theycallmemellojello · 02/03/2016 21:32

I also have been to gigs by myself, but isn't the point of clubbing dancing with others? Having said this, I've only really done cheesy club nights at uni. My "cooler" friends used to go to warehouse parties in London, and that seemed to be all about the music and drugs - I think it would be fine to go to something like that on your own. I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable in a cheesy disco type club alone. But fine if you think you would. Or try meetup.com?

ZootSuit · 02/03/2016 21:33

SouthPole sounds like my kind of night out, how long will it take me to get there from Essex?!
I catch myself quite often daydreaming about a night out dancing, or when a certain song comes on and presses the button...

Hobbes8 · 02/03/2016 21:37

SouthPole can we go to Snobs? And then at Mr Egg for chips afterwards?

CaughtUpNearTimbuktu · 02/03/2016 21:38

I used to go out with a group of mates, get bored and latch onto other groups. Had some of the best nights out ever doing that! I say go for it!

WeeHelena · 02/03/2016 21:38

Only ever done it once as non of my friends were available and a date flaked so I got dressed and went out to a Jazz bar and fairly enjoyed myself.

Just do it, pick somewhere sociable to get warmed up then club.

Oldraver · 02/03/2016 21:49

I would (and have) gone clubbing on my own, though do end up meeting people I know. This is what I call proper clubbing for the music.

I wouldn't go to cheesy boozey townie clubs

BennyTheBall · 02/03/2016 21:50

Clubbing? Alone?

How old are you? Even if you're 19, I'm thinking it would be odd to go clubbing alone.

Plateofcrumbs · 02/03/2016 21:53

I've been clubbing on my own, although only really when I was already out and friends bailed early and I thought 'sod it' and went on to a club on my own. I've thought about going out entirely on my own before but never quite had the nerve.

Ackvavit · 02/03/2016 21:57

Benny the ball...I think it is possibly quite the opposite of odd. I think tinder is a bit sad but each to their own. Actually some of the best fun I've had is splitting off from planned nights out and hooking up with new people. I understand you may think turning up alone is "odd" , but if you are not "odd" what's the difference than hooking up on social media random sites?

Divathecat · 02/03/2016 22:02

I did a lot of clubbing, on my own only to gay clubs. Met lifelong friends this way, including my bestest friend.

lorelei9 · 02/03/2016 22:02

Never done it but why not? Pretend you've lost your mates
I have got talking to other groups after genuinely losing mates in big clubs and didn't even look at my phone for ages because o had a laugh dancing and chatting with people I found.

BennyTheBall · 02/03/2016 22:05

It would be odd for me or my friends, but I realise we're all different.

LifeofI · 03/03/2016 00:51

I think you should try it and if you feel comfortable then do it more.
I had a fear of flying alone but recentky got on a plane by myself, i felt so grown up Smile

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