AIBU unreasonable to think it's not necessary to avoid visiting an 8 month old because you have a sore throat?

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We had plans today to see a family member.
They just called to cancel because they have a sore throat and don't want to risk giving it to my DS. They wouldn't hear of coming despite me saying it's ok, it's definitely not just an excuse either.

Aibu to think this is overkill? He's not 8 weeks old, he's 8 months! Of course I won't encourage him to be held/kissed, but surely life has to carry on unless the visitor is very ill flu/stomach bug etc.

How much do you avoid illness with your children?

There's being afraid of life and a hypochondriac verses being responsible and thinking of others and not just yourself.

A can do attitude is fantastic as long as your can do doesn't cause others harm.

I think visiting a baby while feeling ill is a totally selfish act.

A sore throat is basically the virus of the cold though.
Symptoms are very different than bacterial tonsillitis that is much worse (I know I've just had one).

Fwiw when I went to see the GP for the bacterial tonsilitis, the comment was:

• no need to stay indoor for the bacterial tonsilitis, or to avoid people 'just in case' (I work with people who have lower immune system. I was advised its ok for me to see them when I feel ok enough to be at work)
• no need to stay indoors and avoid people for a sore throat (virus) as it is basically the virus of the common cold, present everwhere. They don't see that as a problem unless it u has been there for more than 7 days.

And finally, I'm pretty sure that all the people who says that it's a very nice gesture and what about people with lower immunity etc..., would still take the plane to go on hols with a sore throat. They wouldn't cancel a £2k holidays for that. Even though in a plane where the air is recycled, you can be sure that someone else will catch said virus......

Personally I think yabu. Funnily enough this came up for us at the weekend.

We've all just got over colds and sore throats here, then at the weekend, pil announced that they were visiting and picking up bil and sil on route. However bil might not want to come as he's really ill. Wtf? Why would you even consider bringing someone full of cold round to a house with two kids one being a baby, and dh doesn't get sick pay either.

Luckily bil had the sense not to come.

And I say it again. It's an 8 months old baby that would have caught a lot of those 'awful' viruses if they were at nursery. Somehow they cope and actually it helps the. Building their immune system.

It's not being inconsiderate. It's being realistic of what you can and should protect your baby from.

If that baby had been poorly or was 8 weeks old, it would have been different.
At 8 months, some children are already moved to the toddler stage, walking around everywhere!

Beside, the OP said she was happy with it! So it's not as if that person would have imposed their illness to her and her baby.

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We have no idea what this person's "sore throat" is I was knocked out with a fever and shakes for two days last week and a terribly sore swollen throat. It could be anything from a niggle to something that could be quite serious if a baby caught it.

m pretty sure that all the people who says that it's a very nice gesture and what about people with lower immunity etc..., would still take the plane to go on hols with a sore throat. They wouldn't cancel a £2k holidays for that. Even though in a plane where the air is recycled, you can be sure that someone else will catch said virus

I think this is called taking a calculated risk. You know you are seeing a little baby and think it's not worth passing on illness for the sake of a visit, it can be re-arranged.

A 2k holiday though, is not worth re arranging for a cold or a sore throat. Not that I've ever been on one lol.

Well the baby has no choice.

My dd3 was hospitalised at 4 weeks with severe whooping cough as a selfish relative visited with kids who had bad coughs.

Yes know the baby is older but why risk it? Work is different as all adults etc. And you do with work.

Can't see the point for just socialising.

Still each to their own.

Scarlet fever is doing the rounds which comes from a sore throat so no a sore throat isnt just the symptom of a cold