My son is 4 and today he told me his nursery key worker smacked him really hard on his head because he was naughty. I am gobsmacked (no pun) and asked him in many different ways to describe what exactly happened and his story is consistent. He even showed me how she did it and each time it was with force. I asked if he cried, if he told another teacher and what happened aftetwards. He said he cried a lot and there was no other teachers in the room. I find it really hard to believe because it is a small nursery and only have 2 rooms and there are always at least two teachers per room. He then proceeded to tell me that this teacher smacked another child too. When I asked him if he was sure, he laughed. However, he was very serious and consistent when he was explaining how the teacher hit him.
On a separate occasion, about two weeks ago, my son complained to me that when he was visiting his dad's place (we are separated and my ex shares a house with his sister her husband, their two kids, 3 & 5 and his sister's mother in law) the mother in law hurt him by pulling his ear. After consistently repeating the story, he then added that his uncle hurt him too. A minute after he was denying about the uncle but being consistent about the uncle's mum. When I asked my ex, he denied it, but in the meantime became defensive, saying that our son was constantly aggresive towards his cousins. To which I responded with a threat that I am reporting it to the police if he doesn't take measures to never leave our son in this woman's care. He agreed.
Just to explain further, my son is a dream child, not aggressive at all, very gentle, sensible and aware of boundaried and I was very suprised that he may have been agressive towards his cousins. Then I remembered that a month ago his cousins broke his tablet and the girl, 3, left a blue bite mark on his arm. So I told my ex that our son was most probably provoked. Anyway we agreed that he will keep a constant eye on him and that was it, because my ex is a dream dad who is extremely kind, gentle and protective of our son all the time, so I trust him completely. (I know, son and dad are very much alike in temperament.)
Anyway, back to my dilema... Is my son telling the truth about his teacher smacking him and what should I do?...