To think once you're over the age of 35 chances of meeting someone are slim

[Amanda141]

Someone without kids that is, most men of this age want younger women.

AIBU?

I was 36 when my 16 year marriage (no kids) broke up and I thought that there was little chance of starting over and meeting someone who wanted kids. Out of the blue I met DH who is 4 years younger than me, he was single with no kids and no baggage.
It can happen, I had dd at 38 and ds at 40.

I live in NI, and have 2 single friends who would love to meet someone normal.
There is nobody.
Absolutely nobody. All the single guys are arseholes/commitment phones/losers/cheaters.
It is grim. Most people I know don't even know 1 available guy that they would consider hooking someone up with.
'Tis a shite place to be single.

Met DP when I was 36. He has no kids, is normal, no weird deviant behaviours, kind and bloody gorgeous! It does happen. We met at work.

I was 39 when I met DP and he was 45. I have a ds but he doesn't have any kids.

Tbh I think at over 35 even if there are no kids it's unlikely you will meet someone who doesn't have a past of some kind iyswim, but that's just life.

In terms of kids, I was initially of the thinking that it would be better to meet someone with kids because they would have the same kind of instincts and understanding as me, so I thought very long and hard before me and DP got together as to whether someone without children would work for me iyswim. As it turns out I couldn't have chosen better. :) and having seen what attempting to blend families can do and read countless step parenting threads, if me and DP split there is no way I would get involved with someone who had children.

YANBU.
no men out there. it seems like its 20 available women to 1 available man.

I did it the other way and found a man with grown up kids so you don't get the problems