To think once you're over the age of 35 chances of meeting someone are slim

[Amanda141]

Someone without kids that is, most men of this age want younger women.

AIBU?

Some with = some one

Thanks for this. I am totally fucked then and will never ever meet someone.

'What's wrong with someone with kids?'

Step parenting really isn't for everyone.

When I was single and childfree, I wouldn't see men who had kids. Just didn't want to go there.

My DH was 35 when we started dating. He had been married but no kids

I didn't either expat. It was never the kids I hated, more like their mothers!

Wifey and I met each other when around 40; neither of us had kids and neither of us want them either (she can't have them so it's redundant anyway).

Judging from the number of 35ish plus men I saw recently in an art gallery in a very posh part of London wearing a baby in a sling, with a slightly younger looking woman in tow ,I would say there plenty of first time fathers around of that age .Of course they might have had DCS from a previous marriage but they had that besotted look that people have for a pfb .
I agree with previous poster.a lot of high -flying men just don't have the time until they ease back a bit in their thirties Do hope I'm right for my DDs sake !

Yanbu. I was 32 when I met dh. I had previously dated divorced dads, I'd never been married. By the time I got to 30 meeting someone who hadn't been married previously and or had kids was slim. My good friend set us up and didn't tell me he was 8 years younger than I was and didn't tell him either, we found out later but by that time we'd fallen for each other so it was no big deal. I had usually dated men at least 3 or 4 years older, usually more like 10 years older so friend kept mum and hoped for the best. We will be married 16 years this spring.

And I broke up with the guy that had kids - they were lovely honestly but not having any kids just didn't understand kids at all. Didn't help that his ex had a screw loose and I knew I'd be dealing with her a lifetime too. Had no interest in that. Though to be honest I can see why she acted like she did since he turned out to be a huge knob!

I'd give divorced men a wide berth; they are usually that way for a reason. Not always, of course.

I think I'd rather date a man with kids; if I have to stay with my sick child rather than trotting off for a romantic weekend, I personally feel that only a man with kids will fully understand the need to put them first (and for his kids to come first too).

I met DP when I was 35, he was 26. No dc on either side. We've been together three years now and are getting married in a few weeks.

I know loads of single men 35-40 with no kids.

Op personally if I was picking someone new to be with, I wouldn't want someone with kids. I would say absolutely not. But would prefer it.

I grew up in a blended family and it wasn't great. But, I know it can work. But my experience is such that I would prefer someone with no kids.

I am dating a man aged 57 he has no children and I have 2 we have been dating for over a year. YABU

That post at 22:52 is awful, 'bird' really?

Isn't op saying she's 35 or over, and hopes to meet someone without children?

I do think men of this age without children tend to go for younger women to be honest.

"Dads bird doesn't have kids or like them yet dad has 5 kids and 1 grandchild.
They were about 35ish when divorced. Mum met stepdad at 37 and I was pregnant so he took on 5 kids and a grandchild.
Dad met his bird at 40ish and he had 5 kids and a Nearly 3 year old grandchild.
It's possible"

But only in a small, northern town.

"I'd give divorced men a wide berth; they are usually that way for a reason. Not always, of course."
That's very broad-minded of you, Kiwi.

I wouldn't have looked at a guy with children. I don't even want my own, never mind the miserable thanklessness that is someone else's.

Trills - he was when I met him, and that was well over the age of 49

Eat - I was being a bit self-deprecatingly English Northern, as that's were I live.

As a 42 year old childfree man, I can tell you that there are plenty of men my age and younger who don't want children and don't already have them.

But as a 42 year old childfree man, I can tell you that there are not plenty of women out there my age and younger who either don't want children or don't already have them.

I have been single for six years, haven't had a date in over 4 and I've pretty much, very sadly, come to the conclusion I am going to be single now.

Oddly enough, all my friends who want children or already have them never ever have a problem dating. All my friends who don't want children have been long-term single.

My female best friend (38) has been single 9 years now and she is ambivalent about children (would have them if her partner wanted them, not if they didn't want them) but doesn't want to date someone who already has children or already been married. She's not had a date in 6 years. And yes, we've all been online dating in our time.

On the 'what's wrong with kids' point, I'd say it's a very good thing if people who don't want to deal with a partner who has kids and everything that involves steer well clear. Seems to me the world would be a better place if everyone who felt that way were to have a similar no kids clause.

ToastDemon- you are so right (about other people's children), that's for sure