how to tell my mother I am pregnant

[StillYummy]

I am pregnant! This baby is a lovely surprise after years of treatment to get DC1. DC1 is not yet a year old so it is quite a small gap. Firstly I want to get the scan out the way so I know the baby is ok but after that I am going to have to tell my mum.

When I told my mum I was pregnant with DC1 (after the first scan) she said "well don't tell anyone". She then continued to not say anything nice till my aunt had a word, when she finally text me congratulations... After my aunt did! Mum was not aware of all the treatments and investigations I had to go through because when I tried to tell her she cut me off with "I don't want to know".

So, how do I tell this woman who will be incapable of saying anything nice? She will say it is too soon, or embarrassingly soon or and accident. That will make me want to tell her to do one, witch is not the low stress option I am looking for.

Would I be unreasonable to text her "we are really happy to announce I am pregnant with a brother/sister for DC1. I thought I would tell you by text to give you time to process and then reply with your congratulations."

Or is that a bit leading?

Ah, she is that special kind of 'sensitive' who takes the hump at the slightest thing anyone might say 'wrong' to her but doesn't give a flying fuck about the impact she has on others.

She was probably nasty about your last announcement because she couldn't find a at to make it about her and resented you being the focus of positive attention.

I can only suggest sending a mass text including her, and accepting that if she chooses to take offence at something that's about her, not about you.

You have my sympathies OP!

I just found out I'm pregnant with DC2 and I am dreading telling my parents and grandparents

Some people's reactions just aren't ones to look forward to....

Many congratulations!!!!

Congratulations! How exciting

First thing MIL said when DH announced I was pregnant: "Was it planned?"

We had been married for 5 years.

First thing she said when DH rang to say she was a grandmother: "You called her what?"

If it was up to me she'd get all future news via text and nothing else. These things can put a massive downer on what should be lovely moments. Tell your mum by text or Facebook message so you don't have to deal with her response.