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to wonder why if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all does not apply on mumsnet

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susieb19 · 27/02/2016 21:28

I don't really get it..

I scroll through the posts on mumsnet and browse things people post that interest me (for whatever reason)..and it never fails to amaze me how people can be ar*ed to write something sarcastic or unsympathetic or just be mean to the op. Who could be bothered?! (I'll soon see I suppose!).

It's not about people disagreeing with the op about whatever they have raised. It's the way it's done. Is it because it's anonymous? But it's not fully anonymous is it. I've spotted people in the education thread especially who you see time and again posting nasty, sarcastic replies.

I'm no flower waving hippy by any means but can't life be rubbish enough sometimes without us pulling each other down too (here comes the flame). I don't expect fairy land but just a degree of general kindness.

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Owllady · 27/02/2016 23:00

I have the capacity to be unpleasant but it upsets me I hurt people and I take that on board and I have the capacity to understand I can be a wanker

I strive to do better. Upsetting people upsets me

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usual · 27/02/2016 23:03

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Owllady · 27/02/2016 23:08

Thank you usual, I've never seen you be one either :)

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SleepyBoBo · 27/02/2016 23:20

I've just name changed (not for flouncing sake, I have been meaning to change for a while). However, under my previous name, there was a large debate where I was very much on the minority side. Fair enough, you can't agree with everyone in life. The mob-mentality on here is something to behold though, and piss people off enough, they drag you into other threads as well it seems. I have a thick skin though, and can see how it works both ways. The big thread at the moment, I can see why 99% of posters are so upset/angry with the OP. There's just no way to be 'nice' in the face of such awful selfish and self-obessed behaviour (now see me being a hypocrite about mentioning a user in other threads!). I think it's similar to real life - sometimes you're the lone voice, sometimes you over step the mark, sometimes you are part of something that tries to make the world a better place.