or my friends are really weird!

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Have been lurking around for so long and have read many helpful replies.
My issue is not huge but it's really puzzling. Sorry if I am rambling on!

Basically my DH and I have been pretty close to a couple and you could say we are close friends.
A bit of a background... DH and I have been trying for a baby for over 7 years and were finally blessed to get our baby boy (through long IVF).
Well all of a sudden the friends are talking about having kids...but at the same time not acknowledging that I am pregnant (and just talking about how their life will change once THEY get a baby hypothetically)
She then falls pregnant and they start planning a wedding. The thing is we are super happy for them and show it but they have become very competitive with us... It's like who had the better pregnancy, 'how strong are his swimmers that they fell pregnant straight away" etc
Also the other thing that baffles me is that they constantly talk about their wedding but haven't invited us... Yet we still go out and even went away together.
I am so confused!! What is going on.

It doesn't sound as if they class you as friends.

Come back op and update.

Update:

So we met up with the friends and it was a bit awkward as I just felt so angry but was very polite. I started to feel that maybe I was the one in the wrong when they offered to babysit our LO for the day but then the He (from the couple) said "yes.. We need to practice as we haven't held a baby before". I was a bit shocked but smiled and said "practice on your own baby.. You will have no choice soon enough.

The other thing is... They just announced they bought a certain pram (it is not well known brand here) and it is our pram!
They pretended not to have known and were so surprised but went on to say that it is the next level up. So just like all of you said... It is all about competition. I am looking forward to them having their LO and realising that there are more important things then who has a better pram.
Regarding the wedding... I decided not to ask.. Just couldn't bring my self up to say it. I don't want them thinking that I am asking for it.
Have discussed with DH and we have decided to distance our selves and just enjoy our little boy.
Thank you everyone for your help.

Wise decision, I think, user.

It won't get better once the babies here it will get worse. she will of had a better birth, hel sleep better, sit earlier, walk and talk earlier (although he/she may not they will bullshit) these type of people don't just suddenly stop being competitive. by making you feel shit they give theirselves a boost. I'd definitely minimise contact and possibly even stop it all together.

You don't need that negativity.

Now your eyes have been opened you'd notice it all the time. The best thing to do is just let it go.
What a shame an otherwise good friendship has come to this. They are not good friends.

Glad they confirmed it with the pram being the 'next model up'. Ffs, people, who do this must have very empty lives to care about such trivial bollocks!

Laughing at "next level up". Well, at least they've revealed themselves for what they are, OP.

To be honest although they do seem status orientated, the phrase "we need to practice as we havent held a baby before" to take offence from this, sounds a bit over sensitive.. It sounds just like a throw away comment, with a bit of self depreicating humour.
I'm over sensitive so I understand where you're coming from, and you seem quite riled up from all the comments on here. But honestly who cares if they bought the same pram as you? Why are you at all bothered? It sounds as if you are feeling competitive with them. I would be flattered if somone bought the same thing as me.
Yes they should invite you to the wedding. But if you have known her for 9 years, and you think of her as a good friend I think it is right to ask for a wedding invite in a light hearted manner. If you feel to shamefaced to say this, you do not trust them and they cannot be proper friends in your eyes.

detach and look at them like a soap opera. what will happen next?