...to think something weird is going on?

[yougetme]

Dds friend showed their group of mates a whole wad of money when they got together at half term .Im talking well into 3 figures here. She is a normal 15 year old slighty geeky ,swotty type of girl. Not yet into going out at nights except to sleepovers with the rest of the gang.

She says she was given the money by her parents - for valentines day!

Apparently she has previously had a lot of money at times but this is a lot more. She has siblings and her family background is normal working class so not the type to have money to throw around.

I feel very unsettled about this for some reason.

Should I urge Dd to speak to a teacher?

If you know the parents (or at least know of them enough to have a feel for how they are likely to react) I'd speak to them. Keeping i quite low key- ie just wanted to check you knew DD brought out quite a lot of money with her the other day. I'd avoid saying anything about wondering where it came from (in case they get defensive and think you're accusing her of something). If they did give her the cash they'll probably tell you. If not they can deal with it.

If you don't feel comfortable doing that I don't think it's a problem contacting school. But I'd do it yourself rather than asking DD to. Most secondary schools have a pastoral care manager or similar who will be used to dealing with safeguarding concerns sensitively.

My view on these things is to think how I'd want someone to deal with it if it was my DC. It's not that comfortable but I'd rather have a call from a concerned parent/school now than have DC in a harmful situation (even if it's no more than perhaps emptying her own bank account to show off to friends) and not know.