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Aibu to leave a snotty note on my door for post woman

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Shosha1 · 25/02/2016 11:55

We moved into this house 5 months ago.

And ever since the post woman won't ring the bell!

So if we have parcels ( which is often) we end up having to go get them from the sorting office 12 miles away!

We put a not under the bell saying please ring the bell.

Still we are getting ' you were not in' notes put through the door

I saw her the other day ( we can't see front door from lounge ) as I was coming in. She was putting a not in note through.

I told her my DH was in, and had she rung the bell ?

She insisted it didn't work. I pressed it and ding dong it worked.

Anyway took parcel and went in.

Yesterday yet again a not in notice.

So today I put a note on door saying

Royal Mail we are in. Please ring !

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charliedontsurf · 25/02/2016 14:32

My postie in my new house didn't knock when he had a parcel for me. This was at Christmas time and I was concerned I wasn't going to get my presents in time so I left a note saying 'please knock loudly as I am in'. Postman pretty much hammered the door down and when I answered it, fixed me with a stare and said 'was that loud enough?'.

Cheeky shit. We get on OK now, a few days ago I saw him trying to put letters through a neighbours door whilst their dog was barking and jumping up and down. We exchanged a look.

The postman at my old house had a habit of looking through my living room window first before we came to the door. I was sitting on the sofa breastfeeding DD once and saw him gawking at me Blush

ChaostheCat · 25/02/2016 14:36

We have a lovely post lady, if we're not here she'll leave parcels with a neighbour and leave a note. Her replacement when she's on holiday knocks the door as if waking the dead, won't leave parcels with neighbours and we have collect from the local sorting office. But it's not that far so not to inconvenient (but odd opening hours).
Don't get me started on Yodel, last delivery they tried to make to us they left a card stating they couldn't access the front door, I'm not sure the Driver had thought that through....😉

captaincake · 25/02/2016 14:38

This happened to me at an old address. Infuriating. Once, by chance, I was right next to the door hanging a coat up when the little red card started to come though. I opened the door as he pulled his hand out the letterbox and said "eeerrr hello? ever think about knocking?" He stole our next parcel Angry and started returning my credit card statements so every single month my credit card got stopped because master card got it sent back 'not at this address' so stopped it till I called for fraud reasons every month Angry Was so glad to move.

QuiteQuietly · 25/02/2016 14:43

We used to have a lot of this. It has improved since we bought a parcel safe AND (this is critical) wrote to the sorting office delaring this to be our "nominated safeplace". They won't use the parcelsafe without the safeplace letter. We have a different postperson every day, usually v late in the day too, and most of them manage to use the box now. If not, book a redelivery online (royalmail.com/redelivery). I tend to do this without a reference number every few weeks just to flush out anything lurking that I haven't had a card for.

Royal Mail has totally gone to the dogs in the last few years - I think they are running it into the ground deliberately.

captaincake · 25/02/2016 14:47

The good news is it could be worse.

Aibu to leave a snotty note on my door for post woman
JessieMcJessie · 25/02/2016 14:50

Can I ask captaincake and others who have caught posties red-handed (as it were) putting cards through the door without ringing first.....when you catch them, do they have the parcel in their hands or do they then have to go back to their van or somewhere to get it and hand over to you?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/02/2016 14:51

Missed delivery cards are delivered the day after..

So people getting annoyed about the postie not ringing and just putting them through the door...that is why,.,

the date of missed delivery is the day before the card comes!!!

captaincake · 25/02/2016 14:56

He had the parcel in his hand and THAT is the bit that pissed me off the most I really couldn't understand.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/02/2016 15:06

ok that sounds annoying.

But often the sorting office sends the missed delivery card out the day after, once the parcel is returned back to them.

QuerkyJo · 25/02/2016 15:09

Royal Mail are the absolute worst in my opinion. You cannot contact them by phone, they don't do what they say, and have a totally cavalier attitude.

If they were honest there notes would say,

Could not be bothered to deliver your parcel, pick it up from the post office yourself.

I have 3 complaints going about the, at the moment.

MeMySonAndl · 25/02/2016 15:15

Royal Mail the worst of them all? You have not yet met Yodel. I once had to drive to another not really close city to pick up a parcel, as there was no way to arrange for re delivery before they sent it back to the sender. At least Royal Mail have more local depots.

upthegardenpath · 25/02/2016 15:17

Blimey how weird.
Our post is the opposite. he normally keeps finger pressed on buzzer without interruptions, for at least 10 seconds. We have a horrible rasping buzzer that takes your ear out if you're standing too close and is loud enough to wake the dead, so not ideal when the baby is sleeping or it's 7.30am.

MyKingdomForBrie · 25/02/2016 15:29

quite how do you do that when they ask for the date on the card too?

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Shosha1 · 25/02/2016 15:44

Ok have asked for it to be redelivered as I didn't realise that the sorting office closed at 12.30 ( couldn't go before as was waiting for a parcel 😄)

Got there too late

Parcel didn't come either !

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QuiteQuietly · 25/02/2016 16:12

MyKingdomForBrie Any date will do. The system is not magic. If you don't have a reference number all they do is look in a handwritten book to see if they are holding anything from your address. I usually get a couple of old packages everytime. I can tell they are from the holding area as they have the same handwritten squiggles and a reference number written on them in biro. Please don't underestimate how basic Royal Mail's systems are. I run a business from home and get a lot of post, but no longer use Royal Mail for anything. It's a shame you can't choose who delivers your mail as well as who you send it with...

Oldraver · 25/02/2016 16:16

Dont go to the sorting office, get them redelivered

Bellygirl · 25/02/2016 17:03

I'm a postie and I really don't know why anyone would just put a card through without ringing the bell or knocking? Having to write a card is the worst outcome as 1. It takes much longer than just handing over a parcel and 2. If I don't hand over that parcel I have to carry that extra weight on my back for the rest of the loop and then take it back to the van to take back to the office...it creates a lot more work to not deliver a parcel! I am guilty of ringing and knocking a bit too enthusiastically but that's just because I REALLY want to get rid of the parcel! We fold letters (unless it says 'do not bend') because it makes it a lot easier to get through the letter boxes as we can't stick our hands in too far in case there is a dog behind the door!!

lalalalyra · 25/02/2016 17:12

We used to have an issue with the postie, but the new one is much better (I think he's particularly nice to me because I'm the only SAHP in our street so I take in a lot of parcels for people). The old one never delivered any post on Wednesdays or Fridays. Royal Mail didn't believe us until several neighbours complained about the same thing. Sometimes there would be no mail Wed, Thur and Fri and then on Saturday morning you'd get a bundle.

Although the worst is the company TMobile used to use to deliver phones. The hassle I had with them for my new phone two years ago means I won't use them ever again. The driver signed my name and said I'd had the parcel delivered (new iphone). The company were totally dismissive until I pointed out that EE had accidentally sent me the wrong phone. So I still had the one they were supposed to take back to EE. The manager went very quiet when I said "Why on earth would I be complaining to you if your driver had delivered the iphone5 I wanted, but had forgotten to collect the iphone 4 they'd accidentally sent? I'd have two brand new phones and, if I was dishonest, I'd be able to say that I'd signed for them - which is what your driver is saying." If it wasn't for that I've no idea what TMob would have done or how I'd have proved the driver was lying. The other drivers from their depot wouldn't deliver to my house because the guy got sacked, which meant my New Look order ended up being chucked over the fence and left on the path.

toohardtothinkofaname · 25/02/2016 18:49

I've watched a delivery person get out of his van, walk to the door & just put the 'you were out' card straight through, didn't even have the parcel. I had a headache & no TV on so must've assumed I was out but that's ridiculous. People could have a home office or be getting dressed.

Brekekekex · 25/02/2016 18:49

I have pot plants next to my doorstep and the postie kicks them over every time he/she delivers our post Angry

RhiWrites · 25/02/2016 18:56

Our postie is brilliant.

But last week Hermes mid delivered to us and refused to take the parcel back when my partner called them. They told him to take it to the post office to return. But they wouldn't take it either.

In the end I searched the web for the name and address on the package and phoned them to get them to come and get it. They'd been told it had 'gone missing'.

misscph1973 · 26/02/2016 09:47

QuiteQuietly, what's a parcel safe?

misscph1973 · 26/02/2016 09:48

Just googled it - they look great, but it's a lot of money to spend.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 26/02/2016 10:04

my theory is that a lot of the sorting offices are under threat of closure, so the posties need to get them used in order for them to stay open

so they make half arsed attempts to deliver, fail and return to the sorting office, so you have to collect in person with your red card.... thus ticking the "this is a very busy sorting office" box.

Our posties used to be fabulous, the post normally goes to the front door, which is usually open in the summer, so they put the post in the porch, or if the door was shut they would open it and drop the parcel in, or come around the back and set it into the shed or porch. Or even once they popped it through the open kitchen window.

Now it's all "sorry you were out cards" and I spend my life trying to remember to go to the sorting office for parcels for my wretched daughter and sneakily they just put the surname on so I always think it might be an exciting parcel for me.

OOAOML · 26/02/2016 10:06

We used to get cards posted to us, specifying the date they'd tried to deliver - on days when we knew one of us had been in. I'm guessing they never brought the parcels round.