This is a genuine question as I really don't know what to do. 18 months after moving out he has finally got a flat and tomorrow will start having them overnight. This time he will keep them til Weds.
He will come here in the morning to take them to school then collect from school. I don't know what to pack. Should I assume he will have had the sense to get toothbrushes, PJs etc? I'm sure he won't though. I think he won't have thought about ds1's packed lunch and won't have stuff in for it etc.
I don't want the DC to suffer but also don't want to set a precedent of me sorting every little thing even when they're not with me after he insisted he wanted 50/50 , though it's more like 60/40 to me. I was thinking of providing clean uniforms and letting the DC pack toys etc and telling ds1 to remind him about packed lunch after school. Does that sound OK? If it's relevant, I earn a lot more than him and he has had no money from me (yet). For me this isn't about money but I think he may make it so.
He was a reasonably competent sahp so I feel he can sort this stuff, but I really fear he won't and I will get a load of shitty texts tomorrow night when he realises all the stuff he needs he hasn't got. Aibu to let him figure it out for himself?