To not go to the party?

[Fratelli]

It's my dp's auntie's birthday party tonight. We have a 1yo ds who woke at 3:30 this morning for no apparent reason. I brought him downstairs after we both tried to get him back to sleep as dp was unbelievable grumpy.

Ds went back to sleep at 7 for 40 mins so I got 30 mins sleep. When he woke I asked dp to get ds as I'd already got up with him and could do with extra sleep as he's already had some (I'd been up with ds til 1am the night before, he's usually a great sleeper). I also have a bad headache. Dp refused and was again really mardy even though he got at least an extra hours sleep. I told him he was being selfish and that he could go to the party without me and I'll tell mum not to babysit.

The party is an hours drive there and an hour back. Would I bu to not go?

Have you told him/your in laws that you aren't going?

I know, he's always been very unfair wrt sleep.

Yes I've told them and explained why, I just stated what had happened. They said he should stay home to help with the baby but I told them my dm will still have ds. Dp isn't happy about it but hasn't said much. I suspect because he knows it's his fault!

At least his family aren't all dicks too.

His parents are lovely people yes. They've even made ds his own bedroom at their house even though he's not stayed over yet!

Good for you.

I hope they all give him an earful tonight and he bloody starts to see sense! Is that likely?

It is very likely! Something happened in the past and I left for a short while. His family were fully supportive of me and read him the riot act!

Good! Is he definitely going? Even though he knows he's in for it when he gets there!! Wouldn't surprise me if he changed his mind and stays at home!

I think he will. I think he thinks I'm bluffing and that I'll go! I don't think so! I'm armed with wine, chocs and pj's!

And us! You can stay and chat to us.

Thanks! I think he's creepin as he's cooking dinner!

Good! But stay firm.

Dp's gone and so has ds! Relaxing time for me!!!

Aha enjoy.,and sleep!

Good for you OP and Thank God his family are reacting normally to his behaviour so many times on here the one that's not being treated right then has to deal with they're OH's family starting on them as well.

Enjoy your relaxing night

Your dp sounds similar to mine regarding sleep, you start to realise what selfish knobs they are when you'd rather they had a lie in than deal with the moods