To leave DD with DH?

[BeardedBear]

I'm a SAHM so do most of the running around after the DC. DH will be home in 20 mins, we need to leave in 30 (bus) for DS to try out a new sports club. DD will have to sit and watch for an hour. He said we can discuss if I take the car if he's home in time. I'm thinking I can take the bus, he can watch DD whilst he does his exercise routine (what he always tells me to do during the week!) and then come and pick us up. Then I don't have to entertain her whilst DS (asd) is trying out a new activity. Would make my life a lot easier, but is that being lazy? It is technically my 'job' after all...

Why wouldn't he want to spend some one-to-one time with DD (at home) or DS (at activity)? Is he always so distant?

it's only your job when he's about his; when he's not if he is any use as a father he will want to spend more time with his DC. If he hasn't been doing it make him start. TNS about it.

Yes, it's a no brainer. Why do you feel so sheepish about doing something in a way that makes your life easier? Isn't that what partners are supposed to do for each other? Being a SAHP doesn't mean you should never expect or ask the other parent to do any parenting or any of the running around.

So if the kids are your job, that means you work 168 hours a week and he works - what? - 40, 45? Even if your DC sleep through every night (ha!), you are still working 112 hours to his 40-ish. How is that fair?

The DC are your job when DH is at work, because that is how you have chosen to divide your efforts. When he is at home, you should share the parenting.

Stop thinking about things as being lazy and as 'your job' and feeling guilty. Stop martyring yourself.