I know it was just an oversight...

[vvviola]

... but AIBU to think that after almost 4 years you should remember what your granddaughter is allergic to?

(Sorry MIL related)

Package arrived from MiL for DC today. A few toys and sweets. Lovely. Really appreciated and it's nice that she made the effort to send something for them because she knows they love getting it.

But she sent chocolate for DD2. Who is allergic to dairy. MIL knows this. We lived near her and visited relatively often for 3 years. She saw all the anxiety at the beginning, watched me read every label.

I know it was just an oversight, and I won't make a big deal of it, but seeing DD2's face wobble when she told me "Nana sent us a present but I couldn't eat the chocolates" just made me very sad.

It's not the first time she has sent something a bit inappropriate (Christmas was two giant motion operated wall hangings of dinosaur/lion heads - we live in a very small rented property), but I thought she might at least remember not to send chocolate.

AIBU to be a bit exasperated?

(Ranting on here so I don't rant to DH about it. I know she meant well...)

[abbsismyhero]

YY my mil not only sent milky white chocolate buttons for ds at easter but told sil that magic stars were fine too it wasn't just the fact that he couldn't have dairy but he was four fucking months old at the time why buy him chocolate at all? her excuse was she couldn't remember all the allergies in her grandchildren i actually spoke up and said she has two and only one has allergies so she tried to hide around my gluten intolerance (claiming she got mixed up) i was quite angry at that point the chocolate wasn't even fucking gluten free so she couldn't have got us mixed up now could she and i kept asking why buy him chocolate he is too young? ex dh put the phone down on her and told me i was being irrational turned into a bit of an argument where i pointed out she nearly killed his first son by giving him shit loads of sugar (he couldn't control his sugar levels she made a milkshake with marsbars and stuff in he was not even one at the time) and he was just going to let her do the same again


i told her and him unless she stopped assuming granny knows best and actually paid attention to what she was asked she would never get her grandchildren unsupervised she sort of learned

[Pilgit]

I'm going against the majority here. YANBU. There is no excuse here. She knew what she was doing and didn't care the emotional impact of sending her a treat she couldn't enjoy. It shows a horrid disregard. Yes mistakes happen but that doesn't apply here.