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Original poster

To be fuming that I can't get a GP's appointment this morning?

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MintyChapstick · 15/02/2016 10:26

I'm so angry and upset.

Since before Christmas I have felt that my mental health has been declining. Feeling panicky, wired, on edge and its now got to the point where I am no longer sleeping properly. Keeping waking up very early even on the weekend, with this overwhelming feeling of doom and terrior. I have been medicated before, I know this will make me feel better but I cant get a fucking GP'sappointment, they only have one doctor in the surgery you see despite covering a massive area and you can longer book an appointment in advance.

There is no drop in service like there is in other surgeries, you have to ring on the morning and get an appointment like that. I rang at 8.30 on the dot the surgery was still closed, a minute later I tried again engaged, I finally managed to get through at 8.36 and all the appointments had gone. How is it possible for every single appointment between 9am and 1pm when they close for lunch to have gone in six minutes?

I had psyched myself up to see a doctor this morning, I could have started my medication today and it would have been in my system by next week when I go back to work. I know from the last time that it makes you worse before it makes you better. I've been in tears all morning, I need my medication! The receptionist was nice, but sort of non plussed, I guess it's not hear fault but I don't believe there are no appointments. In fact I can just picture the fucking waiting room now, elderly people who are there several times a week with bunions and in growing toe nails (we all know the sort) clogging it up whilst people who are really unwel can't get seen.

How they fuck is this right?

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MintyChapstick · 15/02/2016 16:24

This morning I was incredibly frustrated, angry hadnt slept properly in days and could feel myself beginning to snap. It's called letting off steam, maybe you should try it?

And my own lovely grandmother was one of those people who would vist the GP once a week for a natter. I'm speaking from personal experience. Think about that when you get off your high horses. Although most of you have been lovely and kind, and I thank you for that.

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dontrunwithscissors · 15/02/2016 16:24

Sorry, I haven't had time to read the whole thread. My GP practice does the same thing. Can you go down to the practice for when it opens? That's what I do. I went today for 7.40, ready for it opening at 8am. I was second in the queue. By the time they opened the doors, there were at least 20 people. It's a pain, but it guaranteed me an appointment with a doctor of my choice.

thebiscuitindustry · 15/02/2016 16:28

Hope you'll be feeling better soon Minty Flowers

dontrunwithscissors · 15/02/2016 16:28

Sorry, OP, I forgot to say that I know the utter hell of mental illness. I read a post asking why you didn't go sooner. It's not like saying 'I have hurt my foot. I must go to the doctors.' First you have to get through the pain of accepting that you're depressed again. And trying to keep busy and sleep well isn't going to change things. And then to try and force your exhausted brain to find a way to express what you're feeling. It's terrifying forcing tourself to take the first step, especially when you know that nothing is going to change quickly. Flowers

Foginthehills · 15/02/2016 16:30

To the people calling me selfish or entitled. I hope to god you don't ever find yourself suffering from MH problems, having that feeling that you are going to snap at any moment. Well actually part of me hopes you do and then maybe you might just get it

Thing is, I hope you get old, as the alternative is rather more than unpleasant. And I hope you have more compassion then than you show to your fellow patients now. I certainly hope you are treated with more compassion and understanding than you show now.

I know that severe chronic ill-health can make people selfish and appear to be uncaring of others. But I've never seen it expressed quite as bluntly or harshly as you do in your OP and subsequent posts. I hope when you receive the right care, that you realise how unreasonable you've been about your fellow patients.

Bubblesinthesummer · 15/02/2016 16:31

This morning I was incredibly frustrated, angry hadnt slept properly in days and could feel myself beginning to snap. It's called letting off steam, maybe you should try it?

Being nice is better than being downright rude.

Maybe you should try it?

I also haven't slept for days. It is no excuse!

Funinthesun15 · 15/02/2016 16:33

To the people calling me selfish or entitled. I hope to god you don't ever find yourself suffering from MH problems, having that feeling that you are going to snap at any moment. Well actually part of me hopes you do and then maybe you might just get it

Wow just wow!

I have suffered severe MH problems.

Your comments on this thread have me Shock

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MintyChapstick · 15/02/2016 16:40

Thank you thebiscuitfactory

dontrunwithscissorsI think people who've not experienced just don't get it. They don't understand that you spend ages trying to snap out of it yourself hoping that it will go away.

And honestly I couldnt care less if people think Ive been rude. Caring too much what others think of me is what has got me into the mess.

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MintyChapstick · 15/02/2016 16:41

I'm going to ask for this thread to be deleted now as when I started it I didn't expected to be ganged up on and bullied by people who quite clearly haven't got a fucking clue.

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Wheretheresawill1 · 15/02/2016 16:43

Some people on here need to stop and think. You are dangerous. One day your comments to someone you've never met, who is in a bad place; will stop someone seeking help or worse tip someone over the edge. Please stop and think and show a bit of kindness to the unknown faceless person who is struggling and clearly not thinking straight. Some of you should be ashamed

ExitPursuedByABear · 15/02/2016 16:47

Really?

This is AIBU.

Piratepete1 · 15/02/2016 16:47

Just imagine if my 92 year old grandad posted on here (heaven forbid) about 'the people of today'. How they have no idea about being depressed. How they should try being a rear gunner during the war, pulling their dead parents and brother from their bombed house and losing 2 babies to stillbirth. Rightly so, attitudes to MH have changed thank goodness and I would expect him to be pulled up and educated. Being old wouldn't be an excuse to be disrespectful especially if he had managed to find the reserves to post the OP and numerous updates. An apology might have done some good here OP.

expatinscotland · 15/02/2016 16:59

'I'm going to ask for this thread to be deleted now as when I started it I didn't expected to be ganged up on and bullied by people who quite clearly haven't got a fucking clue.'

Of course.

Bubblesinthesummer · 15/02/2016 17:00

people who quite clearly haven't got a fucking clue.

Except many have said they have.

KitKat1985 · 15/02/2016 17:03

It has to be said, I always find it confusing when someone posts in AIBU and when told 'yes you are being unreasonable' goes 'no I'm not'. Why post in AIBU then?

HaveIGotAClue · 15/02/2016 17:03

Don't delete it OP. Leave it here for all to see. You snapped. We all do. We are not saints. Your health was at serious risk and you knew that. Your comment about the elderly patients was ill-worded, but most of us got what you meant. Other people however, have little excuse for being nasty and bitter to someone clearly at the end of their tether.

I'm delighted you were prescribed fluoxetine (it's prozac). I've been on it in the past. I used to take it at night (made me somewhat drowsy so I could sleep, and reduced possibility of experiencing side effects).

Hopefully it will kick in for you soon. Chin up lady.

HaveIGotAClue · 15/02/2016 17:06

And - to those of you waxing lyrical about the dangers of ingrown toenails, perhaps you could do a little research on the dangers of depression (death by suicide being the ultimate danger).

didyouwritethe · 15/02/2016 17:06

The intolerant posts from people who work in the NHS are particularly concerning.

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MintyChapstick · 15/02/2016 17:06

Thanks HaveIGotaClue I will see how I get on with it, last time it worked a treat so im hoping for the same this time. I remmeber how well I used to sleep on it, never had sleep like it before or since.

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Sallystyle · 15/02/2016 17:07

OP I hope you start to feel better soon Thanks

Ignore the idiots. My dh is the most mild mannered man you could ever meet, but when he is at crisis point and not thinking straight while dealing with a lack of sleep he might write the same way as you (if he was a MN user) and it's not because he is an arsehole but because he is struggling and on the edge. When reading your posts OP I just see someone who is on the edge and lashing out because you aren't thinking straight, ignore those who can't see it for what it is. Anyone who comes on and 'tells you off' when you are clearly very unwell are the twats.

Thanks
HaveIGotAClue · 15/02/2016 17:08

Kitkat - not everyone told her she was being unreasonable.

DontCareHowIWantItNow · 15/02/2016 17:08

Other people however, have little excuse for being nasty and bitter to someone clearly at the end of their tether.

You don't know about others situations who may also be at the end of their tether.

Shutthatdoor · 15/02/2016 17:10

Ignore the idiots

Some of those posters you are calling idiots are also MH sufferers and have said so.

Sallystyle · 15/02/2016 17:11

people who quite clearly haven't got a fucking clue.

Except many have said they have.

Everyone's experiences are different. Just because you have a mental illness yourself doesn't mean you have a clue about how it can affect someone else, clearly.

GreatFuckability · 15/02/2016 17:11

I absolutely have got a clue. Plenty of experience and I know first hand how hard it is to motivate yourself to go to the GP when you're struggling, but that doesn't give you the right to be so utterly dismissive of other peoples illnesses.

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