H who i recently separated from sent this valentines video

[Theladyloriana]

I wonder what others think of this? I think it is making permissible being deeply unkind in a relationship. Or have I got the wrong end of the stick and I'm being u?

I don't think it's goady to ask about the powers. I'm confused about that one too. Is it expecting the other person to be able to do something that you can't, like earn more money or something

No, it definitely means a super power. Chief farter or something

What a twat..

Send him the 'I'm a wanker' vid

Yawn. Did he really expect you to watch the whole of this shit ?

Ladyloriana have some in celebration of you being rid of this dipshit x

...zzzzzzzzz

Congrats on getting rid

Is this from some sort of abuser handbook? It's awfully
creepy.

You should be thankful-your H just sent you proof of why he's no longer welcome in your life. .

Whilst being incredibly bored by that drivel I couldn't work out if he was trying to say you'd blamed him for stuff that wasn't his fault or if he was trying to say he was a bastard to you because he loved you.

Either way its the kind of thing my ex said when he'd beaten me because his mom pissed him off. Obviously he only beat me because he loved me and felt safe and secure with me! Wanker.

I think it's pretty normal to take stuff out on your partner. Basically they're the person your closest to, you're often in each other's space, and if you're in a bad mood for whatever reason they're likely to get the worst of it. However, it's wrong, you shouldn't do it, and you should damn well apologise and admit that they didn't deserve to be treated like that.

We all do it (or at least I think most people do a bit), but glorifying it as some kind of sign of how much you love them is bollocks and just an excuse for abuse. We take stuff out on those closest to us not because we love them but because they're just right there conveniently in the firing line most of the time. It doesn't need some kind of psychobabble explanation.

I take it your ex was verbally abusive and is now looking for some lovely explanation that makes it not his fault? You're well rid of him.

Thanks all. You all made me smile which has been in short supply of late.
I'm glad that's a resounding - weird. Yes he was verbally abusive and generally awful- I am so relieved to be out, it was hard to do but it's feeling better and better as the fog lifts

I think it's pretty normal to take stuff out on your partner

No, it's not normal.

However, it's wrong, you shouldn't do it, and you should damn well apologise and admit that they didn't deserve to be treated like that

Or how about, don't do it in the first place. If you know it's wrong and you are prepared to apologise, then stand by that apology and don't do it again.

We all do it (or at least I think most people do a bit)

Again, not true. Most people do not do that.

Well, yes, people do sometimes snap and bark at their partners because they are tired, or stressed out, or upset by something or someone else. Everybody gets snarly and unreasonable at times.

But nice people apologise and try not to do it again.They don't sent videos claiming that their unpleasant behaviour should be indulged because they are so special...

I got to 46 seconds

That's 46 seconds I shall never get back

I spent from 30 seconds looking for the stop button ffs I need to get out more

Send him nothing