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AIBU?

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AIBU to go to a hotel tonight as we have no heating

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buckingfrolicks · 14/02/2016 17:29

DP is responsible for ensuring we have gas for our large, old and fucking freezing house. It is already 2 degrees out there and dropping.

He tells me this morning that we have run out, completely, and gas is coming tomorrow 'sometime'.

We have a coal fire in two rooms - that's it. No electric heaters.

We have 2 older teen DCs one of whose BF's is coming over for them to cook a valentine meal - on what? The fucking coal fire? There is NO GAS so the cooker doesn't work. I can't even get a cup of fucking tea.

AIBU to want to fuck off to the nearest hotel with the DCs and send him the bill?

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JaceLancs · 14/02/2016 18:59

I've just spent the weekend at DP house which has no heating at all
Temp in bedroom was 8.5 degrees - it's not ideal but some people have no choice
YABU

SevenOfNineTrue · 14/02/2016 19:02

Stoke the fires, dig out the hot water bottles and send out for lots of food.

hefzi · 14/02/2016 19:02

Bloody hell, I am feeling well 'ard: I haven't had the heating on at all this winter - OK, I live in a terraced house, but I have very limited mobility, so just put on layers. It's been hugely mild - even in this current "cold snap". You've got two log fires, ffs - OK, go out to eat if you don't have any electric to run the microwave and can't order takeaways where you live: but it's enormously dramatic to flounce off to a hotel!

muttonjeffmum · 14/02/2016 19:04

I grew up in a house with no central heating and no double glazing. One winter we had snow on the windowsills indoors and regularly scrapped ice on the inside of the windows. Upstairs was so bitterly cold, you could see your breath. We used to sleep downstairs some winters. We had a coal boiler in the kitchen and an open fire in the front room but couldn't always afford the coal.

A couple of weeks ago, due to cash flow problems, we couldn't afford to put any more money on the gas card for a few days so wore extra jumpers, wrapped ourselves up in blankets and went to bed earlier. My kids are teenagers and are not allowed to whinge - worse things happen at sea!

Atthebottomofthegarden · 14/02/2016 19:06

We unfortunately run out of oil all too frequently so I feel your pain! (We are both disorganised.) We can manage with a wood burner and electric heaters / electric blanket / hot water bottles, but it's not great on a cold night.

If you fancy a night in a hotel and can afford it and want to punish DH then go for it! Bit I'm not sure you can really blame him if you haven't got your arse down to Argos today to buy a kettle and some electric heaters.

Ps I hope the gas does come tomorrow. Is he sure it is coming then?

Mrsw28 · 14/02/2016 19:07

We had no hot water or heating for four days in January. We have 2DC, aged 2 and at the time 3 months. We managed, it wasn't fun but we survived. DH went to the nearest supermarket and bought two electric fan heaters and we boiled kettles for the bath (that was fun, DH, DC1 and myself sharing 2 inches of water ). Washing up wasn't easy either but we got by. It was like really, really shit camping in our house.

LuluJakey1 · 14/02/2016 19:13

No microwave?

If you have no way to heat water even, I would go to a hotel.

manicinsomniac · 14/02/2016 19:22

YABU - just wrap up warm.

I don't understand why it's his responsibility? Why make something directed to your own and your children's comfort the responsibility of another adult?

It sounds from your post ('send' him the bill) that you aren't together? But you don't seem to have young children? So not quite sure what your partner (ex?) would have to do with anything.

And if you are together then it's a joint responsibility.

Armi · 14/02/2016 19:24

I'm still sitting here muttering about the sort if person that flounces off to a hotel (in my mind wearing mink and diamonds) rather than buy a bloody kettle.

SnakeWitch · 14/02/2016 19:31

I think if you want to and you can afford it then who are we to tell you you shouldn't! I think our local Premier Inn does £29 rooms on a Sunday.

NuggetofPurestGreen · 14/02/2016 19:32

Slightly off topic but it is funny how things change - we had single glazing and no heating other than one coal fire in the kitchen when I was young and while it wasn't great, we managed.

Now I would panic if the heating wasn't available in my house.

MrsJayy · 14/02/2016 19:40

Mink and diamonds

WizardOfToss · 14/02/2016 19:46

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Beth2511 · 14/02/2016 19:57

We have storage heaters and an ekectric prepayment meter, i cant afford 50 a week on electric so i am constantly cold. Luckily dd doesnt feel the cool as much as i do and is normally running around playing but its cry worthy when its freesing and it does need to be on daily!

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buckingfrolicks · 14/02/2016 19:57

We don't have electricity either - live off-grid, so only wind/solar power and a generator for emergencies. There is no electric kettle, electric blanket, or electric heating in our house.

I think what I find difficult is that I too lived in a 'snow inside the windows/frozen arse bog outside/got undressed and dressed in bed' house and I fucking hate not being able to get warm!

Anyway we do live together and there is history, lots of it, that mean that the fuel is his responsibility. When I moved in there was not even a generator, and just one windmill. It took us having kids for him to sort that out. I have nagged, begged, explained, beseeched, offered to pay, offered to arrange, for proper electricity supply and gas supply. But no. Apparently getting on the national grid would mean a new sub station which would be fucking stupid money a blot on the landscape that would upset the neighbours. Which is funny as we don't have any. And getting a proper big gas supply (we live off two poxy tanks a week, that he orders in person in the shop) in a big tank would mean digging a big hole/putting in foundations/be a blot on the garden (which is basically a field).

Mind you, he's just brought back fish and chips so it isn't all bad.

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WorraLiberty · 14/02/2016 20:00

Get yourself a Calor Gas heater for emergencies.

usual · 14/02/2016 20:03

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buckingfrolicks · 14/02/2016 20:08

we used the last of the 'emergency' calor gas gas bottle last night, he tells me. I think the small camping stove is a good idea though. We're going to try and boil the kettle on the fire (it's a kettle that sits on a gas ring, obviously) a I am gasping for a cup of tea!

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MorrisZapp · 14/02/2016 20:08

How do you light your home?

MrsJayy · 14/02/2016 20:15

Buy a camping stove a a 12v kettle you can plug it into your car or a usb one off grid would do my nut in

MrsJayy · 14/02/2016 20:16

Solar Morris

steppemum · 14/02/2016 20:17

but how does solar work in the dark??!!

MrsJayy · 14/02/2016 20:24

Solar power is stored you numpty

annandale · 14/02/2016 20:27

Um is there not a pub somewhere where you can have a meal and an evening in front of the fire and a few whiskies ?

WorraLiberty · 14/02/2016 20:28

steppemum!!

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