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Our dog bit me :(

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Jellymuffin · 14/02/2016 08:57

Yesterday our dog bit my face, completely unprovoked though he had got out unknown to us and come back in so could have been stressed. We have a toddler who is typical tough and tumble. The dog and DS get on reasonably well but dog has always been nervous around him. The dog is 10 and my husband is adamant he has to go :( I understand why but feel so terrible about losing a member of the family. He really is a quiet and sweet little dog and this was massively out of character for him. AIBU to want to keep him when he is a potential danger to my beautiful child?

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Biscuitsinbed · 17/02/2016 22:46

Andrew has never been nice, he stalks threads about animals and is snide, nasty and arrogant.
I always thought him to be a complete weirdo before finding out about the animal cruelty.
Never understood why anyone interacted with him at all on here.
No redeeming features at all.

Furiosa · 17/02/2016 22:53

For bites please read bitey.

PrivatePike · 17/02/2016 23:06

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JessicaRuby · 17/02/2016 23:31

I know it's bad form to bring up a poster's history but Andrew has some seriously creepy posts dating years back. Including one where a young woman is having a hard time and he tells her to 'consider herself thoroughly hugged by your loving big brother' Confused

Urgh. Really questioning his motives joining a forum mostly frequented by women now.

Biscuitsinbed · 17/02/2016 23:32

It's bad form to abuse animals. I don't need to AS him, I remember lots of things that he has posted.

PrivatePike · 17/02/2016 23:35

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JessicaRuby · 17/02/2016 23:35

True, I can't help but thinking that he is as LEM said a bit hard of thinking as he genuinely seems to think people will agree with him that killing/abandoning a dog is fine because it was 45 years ago! Hmm

PrivatePike · 17/02/2016 23:43

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JessicaRuby · 20/02/2016 00:25

Has HQ responded to this yet? I notice the weirdo hasn't been back to comment.

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IonaMumsnet · 20/02/2016 11:10

Hi folks. Just a little reminder that we don't think it's really on to be dragging up comments by a poster from one thread to another. We've no reason to doubt the motives of this particular poster currently, and men and women of all ages are welcome on Mumsnet. If you've any concerns, please do hit the report button and let us know directly. Troll-huntery and PAs on threads never end well. Many thanks!
JessicaRuby - thanks for your report and sorry for the delay. We've dropped you a line back now.

Goadyflattery · 20/02/2016 11:12

Hmm are you serious? You think it's okay to brag about killing a dog? You focus on the etiquette of bringing up other threads but not about animal cruelty.
I think it's completely reasonable when there are clear psychopath tendencies shown.

hmcAsWas · 20/02/2016 14:23

I'm somewhat surprised too Goadyflattery!

ADishBestEatenCold · 20/02/2016 15:16

"Hi folks. Just a little reminder that we don't think it's really on to be dragging up comments by a poster from one thread to another."

I may be wrong here, IonaMumsnet, but was it not Andrewofgg who straight out referred to his (Mumsnet) reputation when in his first post on this thread he said "I have a reputation round here for not liking dogs, and I don't", and later himself referred to having killed a dog in the past?

In which case, did he not 'drag it up' himself?

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Jellymuffin · 20/02/2016 15:36

Gosh! I am so shocked by what has gone on here and the sweeping generalisations about me as a dog owner and as a person. I have been away trying to resolve the issue as positively as possible. My dog has now been rehomed by an amazing charity, no concrete cages, straight into an experienced dog owners home. I don't know where people are getting the aggressive owner idea from, I just snuggled him like I had everyday for 10 years and he reacted like that. Yes he may have been stressed from getting out but he had been back for 15 minutes, how was I to know he was still affected by it. It comes down to his unpredictable reaction and worrying about my toddler's face. It's not like I bought him, decided he wouldn't fit in my handbag, then pts! Thank you so much for all the advice and support I have received and to everyone who took the time to comment.

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Gabilan · 20/02/2016 15:47

Glad it's worked out OP and thanks for the update. I think the unfortunate cussing/fussing typo in the first post led some people to think you were telling him off.

PrivatePike · 20/02/2016 15:48

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Goadyflattery · 20/02/2016 15:52

What about positively laughing about killing a dog privatepike? I must inhabit another universe in my head when that gets overlooked in preference to 'netiquette.

ItWillWash · 20/02/2016 15:53

I don't know where people are getting the aggressive owner idea from, I just snuggled him like I had everyday for 10 years and he reacted like that

The action you described earlier on in the thread is seen as aggressive by dogs, whether we intend it to be that way or not, that is how they see it.

Most dogs will tolerate close face to face contact. Very few will enjoy it. Some, like yours will tolerate it for years and then, after years of using their own body language to try and convey how upsetting they find this behaviour, will snap.

I'm glad you found a decent rescue for your dog. Please educate yourself on canine behaviour, particularly stress signals before you consider getting another dog.

Dogs never snap without warning, we, in general, are just rubbish at spotting these warnings unless it's growling or snarling. Not all dogs growl but all dogs will give their own warning signs when they feel stressed or afraid.

PrivatePike · 20/02/2016 15:55

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Jellymuffin · 20/02/2016 16:02

All fair and well ItWillWash. If it had just been about me being bitten I would have been a bit upset and taken more care in future, I would NEVER have considered removing him from my house. However, I have a toddler who would never understand subtle signals and so he had to go. Trust me, I will NOT be getting another dog. Hope that helps you to sleep at night.

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Goadyflattery · 20/02/2016 16:03

I have no idea why you are defending him privatepike, I cannot understand it. He was gloating about it in a humourous fashion if you want to put it like that. I think it's very serious unlike an alleged breach of talk guidelines.

ADishBestEatenCold · 20/02/2016 16:05

"Gosh! I am so shocked by what has gone on here and the sweeping generalisations about me as a dog owner and as a person."

I don't think you should be shocked at poster's reactions, given that you last posted six full days ago, having said just a few post before that, that you and your husband had discussed things and decided to have the dog put down.

I am very glad you changed your mind, that he is alive, and that you decided to give others a chance to give him a chance.

PrivatePike · 20/02/2016 16:15

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ADishBestEatenCold · 20/02/2016 16:18

"Adish that was dragged up."

While I see your point ... if that one post you have quoted is taken in isolation, PrivatePike ... it certainly wasn't that post (or any other post discussing Andrewofgg) that alerted me to his Mumsnet reputation or to the fact that he had previously killed a dog.

It was Andrewofgg's own posts that alerted me to these matters, I was therefore surprised that IonaMumsnet felt that it was appropriate to remind people that MNHQ "don't think it's really on to be dragging up comments by a poster from one thread to another" without in any way acknowledging that the first person to "drag" these matter's up in this thread was, in fact, Andrewofgg himself.