to think someone should notice a wet child

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Perfectly fine with being told IABU.

DD (5) has issues with day wetting, which we're trying to get looked into and we've been open with the school and asked them for suggestions to help. They are good in that they don't stop her going to the loo, will suggest she goes if she's showing signs of needing it, etc. Our biggest problem with DD is actually getting her to change out of wet clothes, which they're perfectly aware of. Also if she knows she can get away with not changing she won't bother.

But they never seem to notice that she's wet. I'm not even talking a small amount of wet. I'm talking sopping knickers and tights wet.

I know she's wetting that badly at least twice a day sometimes (due to her wearing pads normally so no pad and knickers beginning to dry up when I get her home), and I have no idea how they aren't seeing it let alone smelling it.

I appreciate there are 30+ other kids in the class, they're meant to be teaching and they can't hover over her, but WIBU to raise this as a concern with them?

iguana I think that works for normal kids - mine clearly isn't normal! She will happily sit in soaking wet clothes until they dry up. I think the pads debate is probably similar to the pullups yay or nay debate, ERIC recommends them in some cases. With a pad in she's more comfortable and less likely to have a massive wet. For some reason if she finds herself damp slightly, even if its from not wiping properly, she will just carry on wetting for that day. It did work with her well until the last few weeks. I'm happy for her to be without them, but not happy for her to sit for so long in wet clothes she's rashing IYSWIM.

Agree that I'd go for either pull up nappies or pants not pants with pads. I'd probably go for pull ups for a few weeks if she starts wetting then if she shows she can keep those dry for a week have her in pants again, starting on a weekend when round the house. I'd ditch the tights for a while as well as wet tights are yucky, socks and skirt or trousers. Some children toilet train later than others and a lot of parents seem reluctant to keep the late developers in nappies when it would be less smelly and more comfortable with less washing.