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Original poster

To sell DP's stuff

44 replies

Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:18

My d.p has spent a ridiculous amount of money on the credit card on points for one of his ps4 games . I am very tempted to LTB but as it's his first time doing something like this I think it would be a tad overreaction . I am not at all happy though and may stay at my mums for the night to cool off with ds. AIBU to tell him he has to sell some of his things/pick up a couple of extra shifts to pay it off?

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Oysterbabe · 10/02/2016 17:24

Surely it can come out of his spends? I assume you each have a certain amount for spending on yourselves?

BillSykesDog · 10/02/2016 17:26

That's fair enough. Yes, ask him to do that. YANBU.

Birdsgottafly · 10/02/2016 17:26

It depends on how it effects you and the running of the house.

cuntinghomicidalcardigan · 10/02/2016 17:27

It sounds like you're talking about punishing a child! I would definitely be telling him he needed to get it paid off now, how he manages that is his problem. I would also seriously consider leaving someone who played so fast and free with my finances.

AutumnLeavesArePretty · 10/02/2016 17:30

Unless he's expecting you to pay, I don't see the issue. He's a grown man and should be able to spend his salary as he's sees fit.

PennyHasNoSurname · 10/02/2016 17:34

Definetly more info needed.

How much has he spent?
How much of an effect will it have on the household income etc?
How much do you each generally have for fripperies?

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:36

We share money we are not well off at all the credit card is for things we really need . I need to buy my son a new buggy and I admit I didn't say don't spend all the money but I would think he would watch what he was spending/.

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:37

We don't have money just to throw away it was £70 round abouts.

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araiba · 10/02/2016 17:39

would having £70 less cause big problems?

you can't sell his stuff

AutumnLeavesArePretty · 10/02/2016 17:43

That's not a huge amount for leisure spending.

Unless there's a huge drip feed that he doesnt work etc then surely it will just come from his wages? Is he not allowed to spend without asking like a child?

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:44

It would cause problems we can pay minimum payment on the creduit card but I really could do with buying bits we needs like a new buggy for ds. Also I am really pissed off that he has done this with no consideration

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:46

We don't have leisure money. The credit card is for things we need but can't afford straaight off. He is on £800 a month.

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Arfarfanarf · 10/02/2016 17:46

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:48

I am not trying to discipline him I am trying to make sure we are fine financially. We have a baby to think about it is a joke. I do appreciate I can't actually sell his stuff though. I think I just needed more of a rant and should have posted on chat.

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pinkyredrose · 10/02/2016 17:48

£70 on points for a fucking game?! Is he 5? What a waste of money! YANBU.

BillSykesDog · 10/02/2016 17:49

£70 when you can't afford it is a lot of money. He should sell his stuff. His child shouldn't be going without a suitable buggy because he spent his money on something so stupid. What sort of adult puts game credits on a credit card?

UmbongoUnchained · 10/02/2016 17:51

I get you OP. Some people really don't understand what it's like to be skint. It would take me months to pay off 70 quid from my credit card that I hadn't budgeted for. Id be livid!

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:52

I am so pissed off I know he didn't think as he has never done anything like this before but he should be thinking.

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AutumnLeavesArePretty · 10/02/2016 17:53

Is he the only earner?

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Crazypetlady · 10/02/2016 17:57

He is at the moment. We both agreed with childcare costs me being off is best for now. I have offered to look for another job so it isn't like I am living off him we have decided as a couple to share money my maternity pay stops next week so it's tighter.

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SquinkiesRule · 10/02/2016 18:00

£70 is a hell of a lot of money when you are low earners.
Tell him he screwed up and needs to get it paid off ASAP and maybe to get rid of the debt he should sell some stuff of his.
Time he grew up and took his responsibilities seriously. Kids and family before fun spending. Even then, fun spending only after making sure all else is paid and there is a bit in the savings for emergencies.
As I told my kids with their first credit card, Pizza and X Box isn't an emergency.

TheWitchwithNoName · 10/02/2016 18:00

Surely it would have been cheaper for him to just put the game in the credit card or are some games that expensive now?!!

TheWitchwithNoName · 10/02/2016 18:00

Sorry - ON the card!

AutumnLeavesArePretty · 10/02/2016 18:01

Then it's even worse, he's not a child. Being the only earner and being chastised for daring to spend your own salary is being controlled and wrong,

If you posted you had shopped and were the only earner and he was threatening to sell your stuff for daring to do so he would be flamed and rightly so.

Birdsgottafly · 10/02/2016 18:05

You need a proper sit down discussion on what his plans were, to get this paid off and get a new buggy.

It's totally reasonable for him to have to do extra shifts, to cover it, life has changed and he needs to take his responsibilities on board.