to have told off colleague for using disabled toilet

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I have a disability and often can't get into the toilet at work as its being used by people changing clothes etc.

I mentioned it to hr who put a sign up but that's been removed.

Just caught someone using it. I asked if he was disabled, he said no but that the other toilets are sometimes full. I said that didn't matter, as he shouldn't be using the disabled toilet.

I'm worried now I will get into trouble. I've complained about this so many times and don't want to be seen as a trouble maker or that it's "my" toilet.

I hate confrontation and want to get on with my colleagues.

Could I have handled it better?

Yabu! You don't actually know whether this guy had disabities, I certainly wouldn't tell you.
I use the disabled loos if I need to get changed and go to the logo as I have a hidden disability But it's my business!

Barbarian has every right to use the disabled toilet as she does have a hidden disability

I am also appalled that hr gave you that information, that is disgusting.
That also does not mean that there are not more people without disabilities!
I worked over a decade without it being on my file that I had several!
My friend suffers severe it's yet she never told work for a good few years.
My medical business is mine.
If I found out hr had to.d somebody I would give them shit.

Lots of hand wringing still going on I see

Lots of refusal to accept there are hidden disabilities still going on, I see.

What by me? Do elaborate

You've spent the thread mocking the idea that people might be using this toilet "legitimately" but didn't want to divulge personal medical information to the nosey OP.

No, I haven't

Yes, you have. Even to the extent that you sarcastically suggested he "needed" it because his cat had died and he needed a cry, then put a sarcastic post mourning the dead cat, on the same page a poster had talked about crying in the toilets after losing her baby. You should be fucking ashamed.

If someone asked me if I had a disability in that manner I would be embarrassed and say no. My disability is totally hidden and not at all obvious even if you've known me years. I do sometimes need to use the disabled loo. I would have been mortified and angry if you had confronted me in that way.

Lots of hand wringing still going on I see

Why ? Are the driers broken ?

Agreed, totally insensitive!!
People often are rude to me as they don't believe there is anything wrong with me, I look to 'young and healthy' apparently

lurking

This is the reason I don't use the disabled toilet. Technically I don't have a badge but currently have a medical condition that would be easier to deal with in a larger space but I would be horrified if I was confronted - I do not want to divulge that kind of detail to people I work with.

I'm really sorry I didn't see that post :( I am ashamed! :(

(irony alert)
Maybe there's something to be said for the 1970s - at least we didn't have this nonsense to deal with.

According to the hse site there should be at least 3 loos if there are more than 25 women or 45 men so it looks like a shortage of loos problem.

This thread has become hilarious. I particularly love the repeated dropping of "criminal damage" until challenged so the poster could helpfully type out some random legal definition and the searching out of and screen shotting of planning rules totally out of any context. Not to mention the alledged picking of locks out of desperation to use the disabled loo and a centrally held hot list of approved users.
Internet forums at their very best

Those of you who think I'm making anything up, I'm not.

I really did have an incident at work midway through this thread (yes I shouldn't use MN at work, that's another matter)

I'm actually waiting on DH to take me to the hospital tonight to get checked over. He'll be home soon he said, not safe for me to drive, he's already mad I drove home.

In the women's there are 2 cubicles. I assume there's the same in the mens, although obviously I haven't been in there.

There is a disabled toilet.

So that's 5 toilets in total on each floor.

This thread has become hilarious. I particularly love the repeated dropping of "criminal damage"

I haven't dropped that assertion, and stand by it. All I know is anywhere I have worked, if a sign put up by HR had been treated that way, there would have been trouble.

anyone care to challenge my assertion ?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criminal_damage_in_English_law

OP, who do you think should be allowed to use the bathroom in question? All the examples that people have given - being pregnant, having a condition but not a disability that requires urgent bathroom use, heavy periods/about to leak etc.

Do you accept that these people should be able to use the disabled bathroom when in need?

op for the very last time, what type of lock are people picking?

I was wondering what type of lock it was too....

On a related note, if there are many members of the public regularly visiting your floor, is it possible that cleaners or building managers are unlocking the disabled toilet in case a visitor should need it? Rather than a horde of lock picking colleagues?