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To think this friend is being a bit cheeky to just expect me to go shopping for her on my holiday?

219 replies

CallaLilli · 03/02/2016 20:23

I'm going on a city break with DH and 2yo DD in a couple of months. Upon hearing of this, a colleague told me that she'll give me a list of things she wants from said city. I said we'd only be taking a small suitcase, as I didn't want to lug a big bag around the city on our final day, so she said we'd be better off taking a big one and leaving it at the hotel or at the station. We are staying at an AirBnb, so can't leave any luggage there, and the station is at the other end of town from where we'll be staying, and I'm not going to hike all the way over there with DD in a stroller just to leave my bag. I told her this and she was a bit huffy and said she'd just ask me to get her a few things and another friend would "bring the bulk" of the stuff she wanted.

Now AIBU to think she has a cheek for just saying that without actually asking if I'd mind bringing her some stuff back? Obviously she'll give me the money and I actually don't mind picking up a few things for her but she's acting like the principle point of my holiday is to go shopping for her! I am tempted to use the MN staple of ODFOD next time she mentions it!

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AcrossthePond55 · 22/02/2016 18:40

Tell her you'll be happy to bring her a sandwich from your trip. Much easier to carry in hand-luggage than 4 litres of shampoo.

cozietoesie · 22/02/2016 18:51

Can you imagine if one of the products had not been to her liking and had had to be returned! Grin

CallaLilli · 22/02/2016 18:56

Oh there'd be a drama if that was the case, I'm sure. You should've heard her when someone bought the wrong-flavoured crisps for her from the corner shop!

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cozietoesie · 22/02/2016 19:04

Well it would likely have been your fault in any case. And neither would you have been paid on return - or not until they'd all been tested out!

KitKat1985 · 22/02/2016 19:23

This reminds me of when me and DH went on our honeymoon to America and SIL produced for us a list (with pictures so we didn't go wrong!) of exact items she wanted us to buy for her whilst we were out there. We stupidly did it to keep the peace but honestly a lot of the things she wanted were quite obscure and we wasted hours of our precious honeymoon buying this stuff for her.

Chippednailvarnish · 22/02/2016 19:45

Make sure you bring back 4 litres of the local plonk for various different colleagues Grin

CallaLilli · 24/02/2016 12:44

I'm still being given the silent treatment and wondering how long she'll keep it up for.

Meanwhile, she might find a friend in the person mentioned in [[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2577277-Is-this-woman-taking-the-proverbial-or-am-I-actually-unreasonable this thread]...

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suzannecaravaggio · 24/02/2016 12:49

Silent treatment?
What is she a five year old!

This woman is not an asset
Why would you care ?

comingintomyown · 24/02/2016 13:09

Brass neck threads are far and away my favourite , thank you OP. I particularly enjoyed the delayed payment to get the best exchange rate !

Bogeyface · 24/02/2016 15:22

I bet that she thinks that she is punishing you by not speaking to you, such is her level of self delusion!

CallaLilli · 24/02/2016 15:25

Did I mention that she herself is going to Paris next month? But as she's a few months pregnant, apparently a suitcase will be too heavy for her to cart around.

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AnthonyPandy · 24/02/2016 16:51

Well put some thought into your shopping list for her to get, does anyone else in the office need anything?

AnthonyPandy · 24/02/2016 16:53

Hang on, her trip is actually before yours?!?!?!

CommunistLegoBloc · 24/02/2016 17:02

I had a friend who sent me quite a few demands when I was in NYC. I really (perhaps irrationally) resented it. DVDs, books, medicines, cosmetics...I did look for some stuff but she's got form for not paying people back for things so I left it. I felt a bit guilty as she's generally very lovely but it was just so many things!

CallaLilli · 24/02/2016 18:46

No Anthony, she's going after me but doesn't want to drag around a heavy suitcase full of stuff because she's pregnant. But clearly it's ok for me to do the same with a toddler in tow!

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CobblerBob · 24/02/2016 20:34

Am I the only person who wants to know the name of the pharmacy and why it's so good?

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glueandstick · 24/02/2016 21:04

She's missing a trick. You can totally get away with more hand luggage when you're pregnant. No one questions very heavy pockets when you're sporting a bump.

Jux · 24/02/2016 22:17

Give her a shopping list because she can clearly buy a case on wheels and we all know they're easy-peasy to lug around. The heavier your requirements the better, by the way, she will need heavy stuff to stabilise the case.

LifeofI · 24/02/2016 22:26

One thing is ok not several though

CallaLilli · 25/02/2016 09:57

I'm getting a bit pissed off about this silent treatment thing. Not because I want to be her best friend but because she's a bloody ungrateful cow - I actually gave her a few pregnancy/baby things I no longer used. I'm not expecting anything in return but to act like I'm unreasonable over not wanting to bring back 4kg of stuff for her is fucking ungrateful. Anyway, only a few more weeks before I transfer to a different office so no loss really, I guess. It's just the cheek of it!

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expatinscotland · 25/02/2016 11:58

Oh, fuck her off. You're well rid of her. Her ignoring you is a good thing. Cheeky cow.

DrSeussRevived · 29/02/2016 12:27

What a moo she is!

CallaLilli · 07/03/2016 15:04

Very small update: Ms Brass Neck has suddenly started trying to be all friendly with me again and is sending me emails asking what I'm going to do in Paris etc. She must think that if she butters me up then I'll change my mind and agree to bring all her stuff over. Fortunately I wasn't born yesterday!

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DaggerEyes · 07/03/2016 16:50

Well, hopefully you've now proved to her that the silent treatment is not going to work with you in future.

Jaffacake09 · 07/03/2016 16:55

Tell her your plans are cancelled and you are not going. Then wish her a nice trip to Paris so that she can bring back the crap she wanted!

LOL

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