To think this friend is being a bit cheeky to just expect me to go shopping for her on my holiday?

[CallaLilli]

I'm going on a city break with DH and 2yo DD in a couple of months. Upon hearing of this, a colleague told me that she'll give me a list of things she wants from said city. I said we'd only be taking a small suitcase, as I didn't want to lug a big bag around the city on our final day, so she said we'd be better off taking a big one and leaving it at the hotel or at the station. We are staying at an AirBnb, so can't leave any luggage there, and the station is at the other end of town from where we'll be staying, and I'm not going to hike all the way over there with DD in a stroller just to leave my bag. I told her this and she was a bit huffy and said she'd just ask me to get her a few things and another friend would "bring the bulk" of the stuff she wanted.

Now AIBU to think she has a cheek for just saying that without actually asking if I'd mind bringing her some stuff back? Obviously she'll give me the money and I actually don't mind picking up a few things for her but she's acting like the principle point of my holiday is to go shopping for her! I am tempted to use the MN staple of ODFOD next time she mentions it!

Can you buy them and post them back to her?

so the op would have to go shopping, buy packaging, and go to the post office, paying for postage, hoping to get all the money back while carting along her 2 year old while on a family break of a few days. time she could be spending in a park or a museum or a coffee shop with her famiily - as she planned. Why on earth would she do this so someone could get a cheap face cream?

Exactly CanYou! She isn't obliged to give up any of her time.

Goodness Calla. I wonder if the other friend will be happy to cart back "the bulk" of her order!

And when people get stuff wrong on a supermarket shop they've offered to do for you, you can't really complain. I remember asking a colleague who was going to Borough Market in his lunch break to pick me up a couple of nice big ripe tomatoes for a tapas dish I wanted to make that evening. He got them and they cost £7!! He wasn't a twat either, we were fairly close colleagues, and I know it can be pricey there but really? Of course I smiled and thanked him!

I used to have a housemate that took the piss like that, everytime I went to the shop I'd politely ask her if she wanted anything, and before I knew it I'd have a whole 2 days worth of food and sundries to pick up for her. I'm not joking...I'd go to Tesco to get a carton of milk and some pasta for myself, and come out laden with 2 heavy bags of groceries for HER. Even worse was when she wanted me to use her debit card, and the fucker got declined. Had to use my own money to cover her, which of course she always promised to pay back but never did

I got pissed off one day and put a stop to it. You should nip this straight in the bud, too. Don't be anyone's runaround.

Lol Tit, I certainly won't be waiting in a line at a post office on holiday to send off her stuff! In fact, I just looked at the website of where she wants me to go (some pharmacy, not Sephora) and it does offer delivery even to the UK!

But I guess brass neckedness knows no boundaries...

YANBU. My older sister does this to my younger sister and she always come back having to pay excess baggage fees and she even skyped her whilst she was on holiday to check her purchases.

"Sorry, you're out of luck on this one. We're doing cabin baggage only so I can't bring liquids, gels etc, as our allowance (10 items) is used up with the toddler'so stuff. It's a very short break, if we go past I'll pop in for one item, but only if we are passing. I'm not dragging DS and DH out of our way. BTW did you know they do Uk delivery ?'

She probably won't be offended though. If she is a direct person, she will probably accept a direct answer quite happily.

Oh, sorry missed the fact that liquid restrictions are not an issue.

Just say no.

Email her the link to that website saying "Oh look they deliver to the UK, that's your problem sorted!"

YANBU and NO is a fell sentance.

If she says anything to you again just say no to her.I honestly don't know what planet some of these people live on.
I knew a few people like this in the past and they're diva behaviour was the reason they've all ended up being dropped by every single friend.

'She does have form for brass-neckedness - if any colleague is doing a lunchtime supermarket run and asks if anyone wants anything, it's always a long and convoluted list from her and woe betide if you get it wrong!'

She needs to be told NO. 'I've had a think about it and . . . '

She strops you just ignore. 'A good friend would . . . ' 'I guess I'm not a good friend then. I'm there to holiday and our plans don't include shopping.'

I'd just say no. You're on holiday not there to shop. It's annoying enough looking for post offices to buy stamps to send postcards, when I'm on my hols I want to do stuff I want to do, not fulfil obligations for others!

And if she can buy online, problem solved. Even if they don't usually deliver to the UK they might make an exception for a big order.

Cocooncentre.co.uk has every conceivable French pharmacy brand at French prices.

The best Parisian pharmacies are brutal at the best of times, if not full of skincare shoppers it will be full of ill people picking up prescriptions so hardly a nice holiday environment for a toddler (or you)!

What does she even want? Boots stock loads and loads of Avene and La Roche Posay, Embryolisse and even Bioderma now. John Lewis have got Nuxe, Phyto and Dr Hauschka covered. Yes, it's more expensive here, but at least with Boots she can collect points.

Don't give in OP, courage!

Sorry, friend, when we got to the shop it was closed. Here's your money back. (Is it suppositories?)

Forgot Space NK stock Darphin and Caudalie, think Harrods stock Biotherm. There is literally zero need for her to be giving you a list in the first place.

Yanbu.
My dd who has special needs is obsessed with New York. If you were going i might ask if you would mind picking up a souveneir for her if i gave you the money but not a shopping list! And i wouldn't get huffy if you said no.

I could probably start an entire thread on her brass neck. A while ago two women sitting opposite her in the office were chattering and, annoyed by this, she emailed a colleague who was two floors down to tell him to have a word with them as they were disturbing her!

I've perfected a rather weird cackling laugh followed by 'With my family? Sorry, they've already given me lists to rival War and Peace' or something like that. I think it's the cackle that shuts down any further negotiation.

Wow

She has been rude first - feel free to be rude back.

"I was googling it to check the address and I see they deliver to the UK, so I won't need to go there for you. Dd would hate it anyway, probably knock stuff over. So that's lucky, isn't it?"

Fuck pointing out online sources to her, alternatives, etc. Just 'I'm not doing this . . . ' Tough shit.

I wouldnt give excuses just tell her no.And in future keep your travel plans to yourself.

I would tell her no! Why didn't you just say to when she first mentioned it..?!