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something bad is going to happen today and i don't know what to do.

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 06:58

just that really -i don't know what will happen or how bad it will be. I think it might involve my dd1 but it could be anything really. my dp on a long drive to work - could be that but im not feeling that so much. i don't know but SOMETHING is going to happen How can i stop it if i don't know what it is?

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Sallyingforth · 01/02/2016 09:46

Something bad will definitely happen today but the chances of it choosing you are very very small.
When you go to bed tonight, remember your feeling this morning and the fact that nothing bad happened.
Tomorrow, remind yourself that the feeling was wrong.

bumbleymummy · 01/02/2016 10:00

Anxiety is awful. I remember those horrible feelings of doom and feeling of helplessness. I think the run is a great idea. Thanks

MyAutumnAlmanac · 01/02/2016 10:02

Yes, I get this with anxiety, too.

I know that once you're in it - pacing and retching, mind churning, feel like you can't cope and will never get through it, that THIS time will be THE time...? - very little anyone says can have an effect. But have another hand to hold. It will pass in time. That much is certain. One moment at a time.

Goingtobeawesome · 01/02/2016 10:09

Phone you feel better after your run, LEM.

Barely 10am and I've already cried twice. I'm so frustrated with myself. Need to keep busy. But pissed off I'll have to do everyone else's jobs since they haven't done them.

SonjasSister7 · 01/02/2016 10:23

Hope you're feeling a bit better LEM

wednesdaysocks · 01/02/2016 10:43

Some days (not as often now) I am doused in the most awful feeling- pure fear and dread. It's sinks like a rock in my stomach, one minute I'll be fine and the next I'll be literally on my knees, wandering what the fuck I'm going to do. i know it irrational, sometimes I have to cry it out (poor DH) and sometimes I need to be left alone to work through it and can be found emptying and cleaning kitchen cupboards at 3 in the morning. It will pass.

KeepitDown · 01/02/2016 10:52

Sorry LEM Flowers I hope you've managed to go for a run and feel better.

I know the feeling you describe well, and was absolutely 100% convinced I was going to die young for years... until all my young years slipped away.

It was linked to anxiety for me (as it sounds it is for you), and I think was just a way for me to pin my feelings on something concrete. It's almost more frightening to be afraid of nothing in particular. By creating a specific thing to fear, it at least gives your feelings focus. But it's the feelings themselves that are irrational.

Exercise did help me (so I hope by now the feelings are less for you), but I also find listening to peaceful meditative videos on youtube very helpful. They taught me a lot about wresting control back over my own mind and emotions, like trying to bring wild-running horses back under control.

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 11:39

well, that was a run! a real struggle but im glad you guys kicked my backside out the door. The wind was horrible on the way back on the beach. Managed just under 5k but it takes me so long because im such a lard arse. size 22 is no mean feat taking my heffer arsedown the road. Feel abit better. Listening to radio two, tearing up as they remember Terry wogan. There's some perspective.

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Wagglebees · 01/02/2016 11:42

Keep busy, get through the day in half an hour chunks. What are you going to do in the next half an hour?

You know it's the anxiety talking. Everything will be fine. Flowers

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 11:44

bath i think waggles.

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deepdarkwood · 01/02/2016 11:48

Well done on the run. (Only a teeny bit jealous of you having a beach to run on!)

Breaking things down is a great idea. What do you want to get done in the next half hour?

deepdarkwood · 01/02/2016 11:49

Sorry - x post. Enjoy your bath - do you have breathing/visualisation techniques that you can do at the same time?

ifyoulikepinacolada · 01/02/2016 12:05

Hi OP - I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Can i really gently suggest that you don't take painkillers before a run though? Just for the future. It's much safer Smile

Massive well done on the 5k - enjoy your bath, you so deserve it!

Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 01/02/2016 12:18

You can run nearly 5k and you're a size 22?? You're amazing!
I'm the same size as you and have recently taken up exercise, I can literally only run about 100 meters!

gamerchick · 01/02/2016 12:20

Christ go you, I couldn't run until the end of the street!

Anxiety sucks you have my sympathies.

bumbleymummy · 01/02/2016 12:44

Well done! 5k is brilliant and the fact that you were able to get up and make yourself do it even though you were feeling crap is great. Enjoy your bath :)

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 12:46

whatthefuck - i thought that too but i managed 11k last week, albeit at a snails pace. It really does help my anxiety. It's not helped much today but i think i just feel more down than usual.

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Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 01/02/2016 12:54

Wow! I know it's a side issue but I'm so impressed...11k is unimaginable to me. Although I am a heavy smoker as well as being a size 22. I hope one day I can do what you can do x

MadisonAvenue · 01/02/2016 12:54

Hello, sorry to see that you're feeling this way today Flowers
You're such an inspiration - I'm a size 12 and could only run if there was something or someone chasing me. I intend to take it up and have all the gear but never get around to do something with it. I try to run sometimes while I'm walking the dog but he gets excited and jumps around me, one day I'll trip over him and break my neck.

Hope you've enjoyed your bath!

Branleuse · 01/02/2016 12:57

I get those feelings of panic at times with my anxiety. It isnt a premonition though, its your adrenaline being all over the place.

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 13:11

i have to run to justify the stupidly expensive trainers i have. I have a rubbish gait where my ankle collapses although the man in the shop insists isnot down to my weight so i have to have special support trainers. has made all the difference.

Re the pain killers i don't usually do that but my back was playing up following my run last week which was too far. I knew i needed to run to losen it up so just this once.

Before yhe trainers my hips would kill me if i ran. Dr told me to take ibuprofen before a run -errr i don't think so!

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 13:11

im still in the bath Blush

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TheoriginalLEM · 01/02/2016 13:13

thank you so much for distracting me - i don't think im ready to stop the meds yet

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 01/02/2016 13:18

Is there something you like doing that really gets you absorbed? Drawing, sewing, cooking? Can you find something that will give your brain a focus so it won't go chasing after the feelings of dread.

Another thing that can help is just naming the thought as it drifts through your head then watching it go again. I have had depression in the past and sometimes it helps me to stand outside an label what is going on so rather than "OMG I feel so hopeless" I would just note "that is an unexpected sad thought".

GarlicBake · 01/02/2016 13:25

Here's a little helper :)

something bad is going to happen today and i don't know what to do.