To think that boyfriend should delete pictures of women from his phone?!

[Mooey89]

Dboyfrie d and I have been seeing each other for a few months. We are exclusive, we are really into each other etc etc.

He was showing me some old pictures on his phone, and I spotted a very busty very naked woman. This was a girl he was seeing for a bit a while back.

I asked him to delete them, he said no. He said out of principle because I asked him to he wouldn't?!

I think it's a matter of respect and he should delete!im so upset that he won't get rid of them that I actually want to leave and go home.

AIBU and childish?! Prepared to be told that I am by you wise grown ups!!!

Oh well that's okay then. As long as you've got big tits and don't mind naked photos of you being shown to his next girlfriend, you carry on. Sometimes people do deserve each other.

Why are people making this assumption about him?

He never showed the OP the photo, she just spotted it when he was showing her something else.

Why would any person show their current partner naked photos of their ex??

No, we didn't miss that you drove home. We congratulated you on it. And then you made the kind of comment that I would expect a man like him to make, which was a bit jarring.

But, whatever. Glad you are out of it.

Why would anyone want to keep naked photos of their ex except for their own gratification.

Amber, okay then. As long as you've got big tits and don't mind him keeping naked photos of you that his next girlfriend (and any of his mates) can see on his phone, that's okay then.

I think the point was really that the dude is either careless with his intimate image collection, rather than deliberately ostentatious, but either way the net result is the same. She has big tits so it's okay for them to be kept and for other people include new girlfriends to see them, deliberately or otherwise.

Sheesh.

I was rather more boggled by the fact that the op seemed to think it wasn't as bad as she has big tits too.

I don't give a monkeys about the size of the norkage involved, just the fact he keeps naked photos of exes, and his reaction when the current gf sees them. Not 'oh shit, forgot I had that' but 'I'm going to keep it unless you ask me nicely to delete it'. What a douche.

Why would anyone keep naked photos of an ex? And leave them visible so that they can be spotted by others? It's either because they don't give a toss about privacy, want to continue giving a toss, or hang on to them in case they come in useful for blackmail or ridicule. None of them are particularly gratifying if you are the ex involved... Ew, ew and rip his balls off, really.

op, how old are you? This is the sort of thing my first ex would have done, when we were in our early 20s. I too would not have been happy that he was keeping the photos but would probably have accepted that I had no right to demand that he delete them he definitely wouldn't have, he enjoyed wanking too much

I was young and tended to assume that a person whom I cared for and who cared for me wouldn't actively choose to disrespect me, so I put up with a lot of poor treatment while actually believing that I was only being reasonable to the poor bloke. That tends to make your senses of humour align somewhat, IME, which is maybe part of the reason for your earlier post which surprised posters here somewhat.

You definitely made the right call going home though, bloody well done

I am late 20's, he is 34.

He wasn't right for me anyway.

And just to clarify, I was absolutely not saying that it was ok because I have big boobs too! Somebody said that he was keeping them as a trophy to prove how big his ex's were or something... I was pointing out that that would not have been his intention. He kept them because he is a dick.

Thanks.

Well done Mooey, he might be older than you, but you sound more mature than him. He clearly doesn't respect women or have honest moral boundaries.
Hope 2016 is the year you meet someone decent who deserves you.
Cheers

He screens/selects his girlfriends based on their knocker size? How old is he? 14..?

Understanding a little more why he's single.

Well done Mooey.....it is easy to let these things slide when you are still in the throws of lust but you did the right thing.

I'm not entirely sure why you are now getting a hard time - I thought it was pretty clear you weren't excusing his behaviour because you also happened to be of the larger bosom.

Regardless, chalk it up to experience and be thankful for a lucky escape (the "you didn't ask me nicely" comment from him really set alarm bells ringing!!)

I'm proud of you. I wish I'd been as savvy as you in my twenties. I let EVERYTHING slide.

He'll be thinking about his ex-.... at least four times in the week. Twice at the weekend.
You're well rid.