Joint email addresses

[JackandDiane]

I've just seen a shocker. Names changed to protect the innocent
[email protected]

Not only sharedy. But with sub groups. does wanker gesture

What if you want to email tom not jemima ?

My original email address has 'myname'and'hisname'@ntlworld.com. It's not a joint email though, just me! His original email is 'hisname'and'myname'@ntlworld.com.

I've had mine 17 years and he's had his for 15 years. I could probably work out his password and log into his mail if I wanted, as could he with mine.

domain names fine IMO, but not jointy name shite

My parents have a shared email address because I set it up for them. They are barely computer literate and turning the computer on and logging in is a joint effort for them.

There are loads of things that are applicable to both halves of a couple. All our utility stuff and school related things come through email, so we want that to go to an email that both of us can access. I also have a formal personal email address to be used for job applications etc.

There was a brief time at which you might have recieved truly personal communications by email and it would have been strange to have a joint one, but nowadays anything like that would happen by text surely.

I want stuff related to our bills, our car and our children to go to an obviously joint address. I don't think that's wanky. It's also relevant for joint party invitations (we don't have Facebook).

Ugh.

No.

Only OK if the couple in question are quite old and don't actually USE email for anything much.

Oh well, perhaps it's OK for us then as we are quite old (over 50) .

If you don't have a joint email, and have school age children, do you expect schools/sports clubs/orthodontist etc to send two separate emails every time they want to communicate with the parents? And who would reply - wouldn't that just cause even more inconvenience?

I bet many mothers fall into the trap of doing all the 'home and school' admin ....... by having a join email account at least you can both see what is going on.

I suppose my feelings about joint email addresses are much like my feelings about joint bank accounts.

They are OK as additions to having personal ones, but the idea of only having a joint one fills me with horror.

Does anybody even use e-Mail for anything even vaguely interesting these days anyway?

I've just checked mine, and the only one that's of an even remotely personal nature is one from the library sending me an advance reminder for a book DD1 needs to return next week.

Call me emotionally enmeshed, but I honestly would not care if DP read it on my behalf.

Eh? Our home email is [email protected]. It's the one we use for joint stuff like banking, schools, online shopping etc. Both also have own personal web based emails too. I must be missing the issue...

The only emails I get are spam, bill reminders or confirming an order really.

haven't received a confidential email for... well ever!

Really can't get worked up over this. To me an email address is just like a letter box and who ever it is obviously intended for opens it.

I wouldn't expect any one to email personal stuff. Most of our emails are deleted anyway!

I couldn't careless about people having joint Facebook accounts either.
Really not a big deal for me.

I don't understand the fuss either.

Now, if I chose to share an e-mail address with someone I didn't share my home, life, bed, finances, etc., etc., with I might get it.

I'm surprised by how many people say they don't get "personal" emails. I email my mum, my brother and sister, certain friends who I don't see in person that often all the time to swap news etc. Yes I text all those people too but I would always use email for a longer catch up. None of it is exactly secret - I wouldn't really care if DH wanted to read it - but it's my personal email and I just wouldn't really want him to be going through it all regularly. In the same way that we both know the passcodes to get into each other's phones but we don't read each other's texts.

A shared email or FB account just seems strange. The first thing that comes to mind when I see this is that one of the couple wants to keep an eye on the other, doesn't trust, has reason to not trust, etc. I bet most people think this when they see a shared email or FB.

With that said, I also know older couples who do this and so for them it's probably because they're hardly on FB, or it's simpler, I don't know. I still think it's weird. Why not have your own?

The school has both our emails and cell numbers, so we both get the information.

It's weird because if you're sending an email to someone yet there's another name on it, it just seems awkward. Dear Jill (hi John!), blah blah, best, L

Nothing wrong with a family based domain name - ours is draconis-family.net. Within that there is [email protected], DH@, ds1@ and ds2@. DC emails forwarded to DH@ currently because they're only 8&9 - they have their own email accounts on the school gmail setup anyway for homework.

Emails go to separate devices but occasionally I'll open dh's by mistake (and realise instantly when I see a whole list of mails from planets.nu) and vice versa.

It's a handy way of keeping my email address the same no matter who my email provider is - so if we change telecom company I don't have to send out several emails with a new address.

We have one joint bank account, one joint credit card and one joint mortgage as well.

I have friends who have one joint Facebook page, which they both update as and when they want to. It isn't strange at all.