To not want to do the school run next week?

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I have been signed off work for a month with stress. This may be extended.
Dh ex had asked months ago if we can have the dsc to stay next week while she goes on holiday. Fine, no worries. They are 13 and 15 and I know they are used to lifts to and from school most days. I have Dh while they stay here they will need to use good old fashioned public transport. There is a bus outside our door at 8.25 which gets them to school for roughly 8.45. Dh is working all week, he is self employed On a contract basis. We also have a 15mo dd. Dh ex wife is not happy that I will not be using my "time off" to drive the dsc to school and back again. I don't really care tbh but just thought I would ask. Aibu?

I wouldn't think that YWBU even if you weren't ill & didn't go out to work.

Drive a couple of teens to school when there's a convenient bus?

Hahahahaha!

Is it really that much of a hassle to bung a 15 month old with a coat over pjs in a car seat for a short journey though.

I'm not saying the op should have to and if she doesn't want to she shouldn't have to and of course teens should be able to make their own way in most cases.

I am just not getting how the stress and having a 15 month old is the issue and I have a lot of personal experience sadly of stress.

If the op doesn't want to she shouldn't have to.

It's impossible to judge what's stressful for another person, though, isn't it? We can only know what bothers the OP here. The DH needs to work something out if there are problems with getting these teens to school.

The teens can get a bus door to door & people still think that the should be driven?

My DCs, aged 15 and 11 walk to and from school every day. It's about 1.5 miles. Their first lesson begins at 8:35, so they have to be gone early.

Unless there are some significant issues affecting these 15 and 13 year olds, then walking is fine, they should be perfectly capable. OP should not have to ferry about if she doesn't want to.

I take DS (7yo) to school by bus. We're at the bus stop by 7.45. Every day there are loads of kids only slightly older than him getting on the bus by themselves. The very youngers are often with an older sibling and/or a parent waves them off at the stop, but first year at high school would definitely be bussing it solo. Their pals would think they were weird if they didn't. Loads of the kids that age all meet on the bus on the way in and catch up on goss/plan their weekend on the bus.

Oh i don't think the op should have to drive them if she doesn't want to.

I just don't feel she needs to give reasons of a smaller child or being off with stress.

If she doesn't want to do it she shouldn't have to take them and it should be up to her dh to sort not to leave someone suffering stress to have even more stress about.

It's not like it's a holiday from work is it? When you dsc are with you and your dh, it's your rules. I'm sure they will understand!
I really hope you feel better soon!