Not getting party invite

[SpecialLittleLady]

My daughter has a tight group of friends . One of the girls is having a birthday party but has not invited my daughter or half of the group of 6 girls. My daughter and her friends are upset at not being invited as they are all so close. Would I be unreasonable to speak to the mother to suggest that this might tear the group apart when they have all been BFFs since preschool?

I understand that this must be upsetting you, but friendship groups do change and the parent must have their reasons, I'd leave it and be as positive as possible about it to your DD.

I think you reassure and comfort your child, and back off in micro-managing her social life. They need to learn to navigate this stuff, or how will they ever learn? Helicopter parenting is doing no favours - you want them to be resilient in the face of this stuff, not join in their upset and sense of injustice, and thus inadvertently feed it.

It's only going to split up the friendship group if parents ridiculously over react. Excellent age to say to a child, you can have 2 or 3 friends this year. Well done that parent. You should be grateful.

Op - as others have advised, keep back.

captaincrunch - what a dreadful woman! Your poor dd. I'd have been fuming

Don't do it!

We have invited 7 from the class to my DDs birthday activity. Not all girls, a mixture, I gave her a number and she chose who to invite. Hasn't stopped one mother getting huffy and loudly saying to her princess "never mind X, you've got loads of party invitations at home" as I walked past. Blatantly for my benefit because her princess wasn't invited. DD wasn't even invited to her princesses birthday outing about a month ago so she can hardly bitch.

Party invitations are down to the child alone. I wish parents would remember that!

She was "unhinged" as they say on here coffee

Your daughter want singled out as only half the group were invited so YABU.

Captain I'm fuming for you
How anyone could do that to a child

It might be the first time your DD's been "excluded", but it won't be the last. Friendships change. DD had no-one at her 18th who'd been at her 6th, but she's still on good terms with some of them. It's always difficult when it's the first time, but you've got to accept that children eventually make their own friendships and frequently you've no idea who the parents are.