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Original poster

To not invite nits to the party

67 replies

Bodberry · 24/01/2016 22:36

Our LO is having a party, we know that a couple of the potential invitees have unwelcome guests in the hair department. their parents are treating them, but would we be U to not invite them? They aren't part of LO's social group and if nits were to strike it would be pretty obvious where they came from, but the invitees are quite close and if we don't invite it could make other gatherings awkward.

Or do we just make it a swimming cap party?

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coffeeisnectar · 24/01/2016 23:15

Buy a sheep dip and dunk each child on entry.

BackInTheRealWorld · 24/01/2016 23:16

Oh for goodness sake.

MistressMerryWeather · 24/01/2016 23:19

They're head lice, not tarantulas.

DS currently has a terrible case of tarantulas, are you saying you wouldn't invite him? Meanie.

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Bodberry · 24/01/2016 23:19

*I'm guessing it's your lo's older school going cousins that you don't want to invite because they have nits and your lo and her pals are younger so the parents would guess their dc got nits from the older dc at the party? If it bothers you this much, I would speak to the parents of the dc with the nits and see if they would mind not coming to the main party and have a separate family party. It may be better than upsetting them or excluding them totally.
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You've got it in one. Are you my sister?

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VoldysGoneMouldy · 24/01/2016 23:19

Include tea tree oil in party bags.

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Bodberry · 24/01/2016 23:21

Bold fail

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WorraLiberty · 24/01/2016 23:26

MistressMerryWeather, I think I actually would. Just for the novelty value really Grin

MistressMerryWeather · 24/01/2016 23:28

Good, you can have him.

I bloody hate spiders. :o

SqueakyCyclops · 24/01/2016 23:32

Just make it clear that the nits can't have a party bag or any of the party food Grin

Brightnorthernlights · 24/01/2016 23:37

I'm assuming this is a joke?

WorraLiberty · 24/01/2016 23:37

I have 3 sons already and frankly I prefer nits and spiders Grin

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Bodberry · 24/01/2016 23:38

Buy a sheep dip and dunk each child on entry.
Could I do that?

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Bodberry · 24/01/2016 23:40

We have nice towels to dry them after a dip. Smile

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MistressMerryWeather · 24/01/2016 23:44

I also have a boy infestation.

I don't mind nits so much either.

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Bodberry · 24/01/2016 23:45

**Today 23:37 Brightnorthernlights

I'm assuming this is a joke?**

No, it was a serious question but I posted in AIBU and the vipers struck.

It's been helpful

Thank you Wink

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CharmingChampignon · 24/01/2016 23:46

You need quite close proximity to transmit head lice - depending on the type of party it's unlikely to be that easy to spread anyway.

There's no shame in head lice am they go with the parenting territory so I'd just get over it and on with it. Once they're in school you'll have no idea who has them and very little say in whose head your child's come into contact with.

To exclude from a party for something so trivial makes YVU indeed.

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Bodberry · 24/01/2016 23:48

Fukit, bright lite please consider your post bolded and quoted

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catkind · 24/01/2016 23:54

Eh? It's the ones that haven't been treated you have to worry about, not the ones that have. I suppose there's a risk some other child in class had them and didn't treat them so they hop back again. But I think they go round nurseries and schools so often that you'd invite no children if you let a risk of possible nits put you off.

It sounds like you're fairly close to their parents if you even know, could you just ask them to do a quick check-comb the night before the party if it's on a weekend?

Italiangreyhound · 24/01/2016 23:55

If the children are already friends/at school together then they have every chance to catch the nots there. Barring these kids from your party won't stop your kids getting them. But it will send a rather sad and mean message to the poor kids who have nits.

Imagine if it was your kids!

Invite the kids and their nits.

Just remember that you need really really small cups for the orange squash for them! Grin

catkind · 24/01/2016 23:56

We got them from playgroup last term, so not being at school doesn't make them immune. Anywhere kids put their heads together. Also second tea tree shampoo.

Headmelt · 25/01/2016 00:00

My dc don't have nits at the moment thankfully and aren't old enough for school yet so probably not your sister Bod Grin.
My dc and I got nits from my df's children. I was mortified admitting it to the parents of the dc, we had been in contact with. I rang them so they could check their dc's hair in case we passed them on. All the parents of school going children laughed and said it was no big deal, apparently nits are a common occurrence.

AlpacaLypse · 25/01/2016 00:05

Nitty Gritty Comb, Hedrin ready in cupboard. Because your children will get them, if not off their cousins this time round, pretty soon from someone else.

Fatmomma99 · 25/01/2016 00:06
JenEric · 25/01/2016 00:12

YADNBU nowhere sells cups and plates suitable for nits. How are you supposed to be a good hostess if you can't cater for ALL your guests?

DonkeyOaty · 25/01/2016 00:28

I remember a poster from Primary School (am nearly 50) with a pair of little girls with heads touching, tilted towards each other, the strapline was 'a touching moment?' Was about headlice.

Anyway moving on

Bodmin I like the cut of your jib. You've sucked up a gentle toasting. Well done.