AIBU to think you NEED butter on your toast before the jam??

[weeblueberry]

DP handed me toast at the weekend that didn't have butter on before the jam. He claims it makes no difference but I argued you need it to soften the toast before the jam goes on. He offered to put some butter on top of the jam because 'surely it's the same thing'.

AIBU or is he completely and utterly in the wrong and frankly a bit weird?

Butter = toast lube . You need it between the toast and jam to help it all slide in/down better .

Toast with...
Jam, butter.
Peanut butter, no butter.
Nutella, no butter.
Sardines, butter.
Cheese, no butter.
Beans, butter.

WTAF - LTB

Only jam here, but I do like butter and peanut butter together, just to be awkward.

Obviously butter is required on toast in the absence of something else fatty (soft cheese, pâté or similar). Jam is not fatty so butter is needed.

The salt/sweet combination is heavenly.

No butter ever . Makes me heave.
No margarine either.

I have never eaten either in sandwiches which is difficult if I used to buy them (I don't eat 'bread' bread now so that's solved one problem )

My sandwiches used to fall apart though without the glue, and things like tomatoes make the bread soggy............ (don't miss them really thinking back)

YABU

Crunchy toast with jam and no butter.

Someone once buttered my jam on toast when I was young, I was almost sick. Gives me a wobbly jaw just thinking about it!

Hot buttered toast with jam, oh the best.

I can't eat jam on bread or toast. I eat jam in cakes and on scones. Jam on bread is revolting, and mixed with butter even more so. Bleurgh.

Toast has butter only in Sparklingworld. Spread into the corners mind.

They only situation I can think of where you wouldn't immediately butter toast before applying further preserves or condiments is if you're going to melt cheese on it. Hell, I even butter my toast before applying generous layers of crunchy peanut butter and strawberry jam (in that order)

One or the other, both together is just rank 😷

Jam is evil food.

Marmalade is even eviler.

Shodan DS2 asked for Marmite sandwiches for school lunch today, without butter. It's really difficult to spread on its own. How did you do it without ripping the bread to shreads?

Hot toast, melted butter, jam if you must, but Bovril is preferred.

Desert I used to load the knife and sort of stab bits on. Like dot-to-dot.

It made me cry every day

(slight exaggeration. But only slight)

YABU. DS never puts butter/spread on his. I do, but I don't with scones.

Even worse than the jam before butter is when my gran tries to put butter on before chocolate spread when i make toast that is just all sorts of disgusting and wrong

There are so many non butter weirdos on this thread !!!

Where the friff have you all come from ?!?

Well, I come from a place where jam and toast is a completely different meal from buttered toast. There is something slightly crispy about the edge of the jam, where it is thinnest on very hot toast...

I don't have butter in sandwiches either, but do have it between bread and marmite

Butter and jam should never, ever, be on toast at the same time. Jam only or butter only. Butter and jam together...yuk, no!

Squeezy marmite is your friend when you want to spread it on butter free bread / toast.
Although why you'd want the nod that is beyond me. Lots of butter is the way to go. Unless you're having peanut butter or Nutella. Then you don't need it.

I don't mind it without butter but if you are going to put it on then yes, it needs to go on first. Butter on top of jam would just be

Toast, butter, jam definitely.
But my dh thinks I'm a weirdo for putting butter on before chocolate spread. Am I?

Butter before everything, including peanut butter.....