To deregister DS1 from school before he gets pushed out?

[sleepinginmycar]

Not that it's ideal atm as more crap than I can handle going on. But DS is excluded from school (again) and I fear that the school will permanently exclude him at the reintegration meeting on Friday.
This will mean his only option will be a PRU and that's his whole future down the pan.
I am seriously considering deregistering him and trying home education for a few months, which will also give him a break from mainstream schooling and might help with his ASD.
He is 13 and supposed to be picking his options this week.
would this be a good time or not?
AIBU?

I don't see how the school could say that he is not on the Code of Practice for SEND if he is at serious risk of permanent exclusion.

It seems naive to ask if you've looking into other schools op...? A friend of mine has her son (with ASD) at a specialist dyslexia boarding school and it's been the best thing for him! He really struggled in mainstream yet a lot of special and ASD schools were too low functioning.

Good luck!

I have looked at other schools in the area but can't seem to pin them down on their SN policies and there aren't any specialist schools round here.
Yes I am the poster who is also going through a divorce so not expecting any support from his dad who is once again bailing on me and leaving me to go through the reintegration meeting alone.
I have absolutely no idea how to word this EHC assessment letter. Do I keep it quite brief but to the point, or waffle and list every minute detail? Do I tell the school before I do it or do I do it then tell them after it's been sent?
Have also been looking at local FE colleges but they only do one day per week for 14 yr olds.

There are websites where you can follow a form letter and look at examples too. just Google.

this IPSEA site has some

As well as FE colleges there are Studio Schools, they are few and far between but there may be one near you. Map link

In 1995 I ended up in a PRU along with others from a mix of comp and grammar schools. We ended up a really close bunch of misfits! Us naughty grammar school kids helping out genuinely educationally disadvantaged children with coursework along with the support and backing of some of the best teaching staff I have ever known. Fast forward to 2016 and 95% of us you would class as having made a success with own businesses/corporate careers/generally happy in what we do. Maybe the PRU is what your child really needs - don't rule it out!

I went to a pru. Ended up going to college and then uni. Some are obviously better than others. Some specialise in kids with school phobia for example. I wouldn't rule them out.

Wow! I just want to say how nice it is to see people being really supportive on here and not judging the OP!

I recently removed my Dd from a massive academy to home ed! She also has Asd and has never had her needs met properly at school! We love home ed OP!

Good luck what ever you decide

Yes I agree Ineedmore There are many dcs who can't cope with the normal school environment, esp. since it's become soo pressured, it's about time that there was proper provision made for them.

Would you consider independent boarding? More House in Frensham, for example, specialises in boys who've struggled in mainstream e.g. because of adhd. Someone on mumsnet can't recommend it enough, if you search for thread.

I am in the same situation as you. Camhs suggested I ask school for "early help". I did this and a refferal has been made it will buy her time and a support worker works with me, DD and school the refferal reason is simply "at risk of exclusion". It opens up other services who can support and advise. If he's anything like my DD home ed might be near on impossible, I imagine DD would stay in bed on the phone then throw a tantrum at the suggestion of work.

Boarding school may be the answer for some but I think it's pretty horrendous they we have to send our kids away and not get to see them daily because there is so little suitable provision in mainstream education for them.

If you Google crested schools, download of list of schools. Lower down the list there are schools listed that specialise in ADD and Adhd