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To think this is an unimaginative date idea?!

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JediHall · 17/01/2016 19:42

I have just came back from a date & now feeling a bit deflated! We went out for a late lunch and then (because they're both students and poor) he suggested going back to his parents house to watch bloody tv :s they weren't in thank fuck. I didn't know what to say so just agreed even though I could just predict it was going to be awkward. Reader, it was.

Neither of us want a hookup so I'm positive it wasn't that. Plus if you're after sex you would phrase it in a different way, tv wouldn't be part of the agenda Wink We also only met for the first time last week so still in the really early stages. it was really awkward and killed the vibe completely. Sorry just a rant.

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JediHall · 17/01/2016 22:54

We're both fans of a cheesy sitcom so watched a couple of old reruns of that!

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Fratelli · 18/01/2016 11:29

Why not just end the date after lunch? As surely that was the date? You're obviously not into him if you weren't comfortable. Poor guy.

whois · 18/01/2016 11:40

Yeah you should have either digested something else, or ended the date after lunch. No need to go back to watch TV.

crabbiearses · 18/01/2016 12:22

I don't understand why you went, if you don't like the sound of something then don't do it.

SexLubeFishSlice · 18/01/2016 15:04

I disagree with the posters saying you weren't into him. I would have found it awkward too and struggled to know how to behave - you barely know the guy

StereophonicallyChallenged · 18/01/2016 16:05

I wouldn't have gone back with him.

As pp said, it reeks of all the on-line profiles whose ideal first date would be wine & a naice film Yuk! It is so not appropriate/fun with someone you have only just met Confused

Helmetbymidnight · 18/01/2016 16:44

I disagree with the posters saying you weren't into him.

Me too. Say you've had a perfectly nice lunch date with Chris Hemsworth/George Clooney whoever, and then they say, shall we go back to mum and dads to watch TV, I'd be a bit...Oh, really?

Then I'd go back thinking, ha, bet that's a euphemism for something really exciting, and then...no, it isn't.

2rebecca · 18/01/2016 17:09

I'd rather go for a walk or to the cinema or theatre or to see a band or something. I wouldn't go back to someone's house early on. I wouldn't want to meet their parents for months

Xmasbaby11 · 18/01/2016 17:21

I don't blame you - that is not appropriate second date. Far too cosy cosy.

marathonthencake · 18/01/2016 18:34

A few weeks in, your relationship with this guy will be you dropping in when convenient for him, or he'll "come round to yours", and then you'll watch TV together.

and then he'll go out and do stuff with his friends that are intellectual and interesting and engaging and take time and effort and energy.

Because women are a bit of an inconvenience and should be like his Mum who just sits and watches TV, and he begrudges having to get dressed and spend a small amount of money for A Girlfriend.

(that's for other people, not for The Girlfriend - she only exists for his convenience. she is lucky to have him by his very existence).

SexLubeFishSlice · 18/01/2016 18:41

I think a lot of speculation is going on here. OP has already mentioned the guy is quite young - maybe he just doesn't know to behave on a date?

ClashCityRocker · 18/01/2016 18:49

I suspect that's it, sexlubefishslice.

Thinking about it, mine and Dh second official date was round his to watch football...although we did know each other prior to dating, so maybe less odd. And he was getting tea in as well.

I think it's one of things where if it works out, you'll think back to it as quite endearing, really. I wouldn't write him off if you enjoy his company on the whole,

MistressDeeCee · 18/01/2016 20:59

You sound as if you're convincing yourself to like this man, OP. Boring TV or not - if you have the hots for a man you get even hotter over the prospect of a couple of hours alone with himGrin

Its possible to survive for a bit without a man, you know. You are young. Wait until such time as you meet someone who does give you those butterflies, and then you'll be happier. Unless of course you are disappointed that you were both home alone and he didn't try it on. In which case, you could date him again and see what happens. It doesn't sound as if he floats your boat anyway tho

Damselindestress · 18/01/2016 21:06

Would have been fine if you were friends first or had been on a few dates but understandably uncomfortable when you've only known him for a few hours.

2rebecca · 18/01/2016 22:43

22 isn't that young. I had dates with bokes in uni holidays we went for walks and sat in pubs to chat.

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