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Ps4 Grrrr

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 10:56

Hi,
I am new to this and need advise my partner is always on his playstation after doing 12hrs at work and when I tell him I don't want him on it his response is that he needs to unwind. Aibu to consider sending his ps4 to a charity shop

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MrsGentlyBenevolent · 15/01/2016 11:00

YABU, who are you to tell an adult how to unwind - after 12 hours at work at that. Unless you have kids he's ignoring, but since that's not a point you've made in your OP then I assume not. How would you feel if he told you that you couldn't read a book or watch tv to unwind?

LookARandomName · 15/01/2016 11:01

How long is he on it for? And why don't you want him on it?

As a bloke, I tend to play something for about an hour a night on most nights (if I'm not going to the gym, going out or whatnot). My wife does too (fortunately, the joys of having a Wii U as well mean that we can both play stuff at the same time).

I very much doubt sending his PS4 to the charity shop will make you appear more favourable to him.

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:03

He is on it from about 9pm until at least 1am and I am getting sick of it, all I want is a loving boyfriend but he seems to love his playstation more then me

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Palomb · 15/01/2016 11:05

You need to ditch the manchild and find your self someone who's capable of active like an adult.

I'm a gamer, my husband is a gamer, my kids play games. None of us would think that kind of gaming is acceptable.

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:07

He is far from being a manchild as he works his backside off and when we do go out he is amazing but the ps4 is driving me mad, he fave game is Tomb Raider and I don't get why

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 15/01/2016 11:08

4 hours isn't "unwinding" - he surely can't be getting enough sleep if he works 12 hour shifts on top of the gaming, for one thing.

themumfairy · 15/01/2016 11:09

Would you be happy for him to show you some attention for a few hours then him play on it? Maybe a compromise?

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:09

I am gonna give him an option me or his beloved ps4

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eloquent · 15/01/2016 11:11

Play with him?

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:11

I just find it strange how he is obsessed with that game tomb raider

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CalleighDoodle · 15/01/2016 11:11

This annoys me too

eloquent · 15/01/2016 11:11

Now you're being ridiculous.

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:12

Not into games

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 15/01/2016 11:12

He's behaving like a prat but you can't chuck someone's stuff out, just because you don't like their attitude.

Seriouslyffs · 15/01/2016 11:13

Who else lives with you?
An ultimatum- 'me or any non essential pastime or behaviour' which is taking 4 hours a day is utterly reasonable.

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:13

Technically it belongs to me as bought it him for his birthday

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CalleighDoodle · 15/01/2016 11:14

when it is late and i say im ready for bed and he says he will be up in a minute. I get ready for bed, get in, and can hearing him talking to someone on his headset. He will be there until 1am and we have no sex life. I totally agree with you. If done at the expense of his relationship it is selfish and thoughtless.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 15/01/2016 11:14

No it doesn't. You gifted it to him, it's his. Confused

LookARandomName · 15/01/2016 11:15

4 hours is excessive I think - even in my university days I was rarely playing that much in a day. But then, each to their own. I can see what I think is your point - in a standard day, with 12 hours work, 8 hours sleep and 4 hours playing, he's leaving no time for anything else.

Gaming is a viable hobby nowadays, but disposing of the PS4 (and indeed any other gaming device) is a bit overkill. Couldn't you ask him to limit his time and ensure he does other things too?

eloquent · 15/01/2016 11:16

When you're playing a game, its very easy to get sucked in.
Talk to him and stop being so childish.

JohnLuther · 15/01/2016 11:17

You can't just get rid of it, it's his not yours.

weeblueberry · 15/01/2016 11:18

Technically it belongs to me as bought it him for his birthday

Er I don't think you know how gifts work. Hmm

Personally I'm a gamer but doing that every night would piss me off. It's not that he's on the PS4, it's that he's doing something every single night that's not spending time with you. Not that every moment should be dedicated to you but he needs to appreciate limits.

The game he's playing is pretty irrelevant.

Silverpinkswirls · 15/01/2016 11:19

If he wasn't on the ps4 he would probably just be watching TV or doing something else to help him unwind. Does he have a very stressful job that he just wants to shut off mentally from?

We have 2 TVs in the living room one for TV and one for my DS to play his PS3 on occasionally. We can sit relatively close together and still chat away while watching/doing different things. I wear headphones when I really want to concentrate on a show I'm watching.

Silverpinkswirls · 15/01/2016 11:20

Be proactive and organise nights out to get him away from the ps4 and invite friends over for dinner.

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Lovelychick · 15/01/2016 11:22

I went out last weekend and bought some lingerie and that night I went to bed and called him up eventually after about 3hrs he decides to come but the moment had gone and plus he wasn't interested

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