to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

"a child's joy" is my new favourite catchphrase.

In fact I'll try it on my neighbour with her testing 4 year old at the weekend and she'll laugh with me at the phrase (she has very short thrift with a tantrumming child, eg her DD at best of times!).

PFB implies you're neurotic about your child. I'm not. I don't over sterilise I lick dummies which I know grosses people out, I'm not funny about sticking rigidly to guidelines, I dont do stupid things like only touch the bottles with sterile hands

I just think children are only children for such a short space of time, why not make their childhood as nice as possible. If a child felt happy by the window, then why not?

They've got all their lives to deal with miserable adults

when they got up to go to the loo i would definitely have moved seats and said if necessary - i thought your little girl might like to sit in the aisle seat for a bit to stretch her legs or have a walk up and down :) BIG SMILE

then turned to the window and had a snooze

Don't you think that was her mum's responsibility, though, TheCatsMeow?

Even if it was, it wouldn't be the mum that is upset it would be the child.

I just don't think it's worth upsetting a child over a seat.

Give over cats.

The happiness of the child wasnt OP's responsibility.

Still responsibility no. However how sad if we only do nice things out of responsibility and not because it's well, a kind thing

Oh yes TheCatsMeow miserable adults aka commuters who are commuters trying to get on or off a train at rush hour and being told to move or having to move because of a selfish mother....

sorry couldn't resist above

The answer to your last post Cats is because DCs have to learn they can't always be the centre of the universe, they can't always have the seat they want, they can't always get their way, they basically can't always have exactly what they want. Because life is not like that.

My view has not impacted negatively on my DCs childhood. I'm teaching them life lessons.

Like her 'miserable' mother who wouldn't even pay for her to have a window seat. And then pressurises the bona fide occupant to take a loss on the cost.

I'd have probably given in, but then with hind sight wished that I'd compromised and agreed the child could sit at the window for a while so they could see during takeoff, but that once you were above the cloud line and the seatbelt sign was switched off you got it back...

I'm kind, just I'm not a pushover or a people pleaser .

I never would have given in, in a million years. The mother should have thought ahead instead of prevailing on strangers. Or asked the airline employees to make an announcement asking if anyone wanted to swap for an aisle.

Never would I reward presumptuous, entitled behaviour. If they asked nicely I MIGHT, if I felt like it, let the child use my seat for a specified period of time. Half an hour etc.

It's really not hard to go out of your way to be nice to people.

Letting a child sit in the seat you want. Buying a drink for someone who's short on change. Giving someone your car park ticket when you haven't used all of it

None of those are your responsibility. But they are nice things to do

Not worth upsetting a child over? When will these precious children learn that in life, sometimes - just sometimes - you can't always have what you want.

On the last few Easy Jet and Ryanair flights I've been they asked peope not to change seats because they've balanced the passengers out. If such a notice went out I would have le the child have the window seat, then soon as the plane banks after take off start shouting OMG THE PLANE IS UNBALANCED

how sad if we only do nice things out of responsibility and not because it's well, a kind thing

Like letting people off a train?

Thecatsmeow, why do you believe strangers owe you something?

Because she has a child. That's why she expects the world to revolve around her. Or it's brilliant trolling - one of the fastest thousand-post threads ever, and now this one is about her as well.

So jamming a buggy in the doors of a train and stopping others from getting on and off was "a kind thing " eh catsmeow ? Ffs, you're all heart

fluffy same here but it really doesn't help when the mother has such an arsey and rude attitude about moving in the first place.... Hardly made the OP want to move or swap albeit for a short time and I'm not surprised!

It wasn't just a seat she wanted.

OP had selected and had the seat paid for, the cheeky arse Mother pulled a stroppy face to get her own way, which she unfortunately did.

Well... I do hundreds of nice things, the car park ticket yes, buying drinks, helping people out, going out of my way. But the one thing I won't do is reward entitled behaviour.

super you are right, I am a bit of a wuss though!

That was a time I could have done with someone being considerate of me.

It really isn't hard to consider others and I'm sick of this hard faced approach to children.

And I don't think the world revolves around me. I treat others the same